YIKES!!! Should I continue to date him or not?

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He shouts and gets angry for the slightest thing. He is very intolerant. He wants me to send him loving messages all the time, I do but not too many as we have only been dating 6 weeks. I want to take it slowly as I have been hurt before. I bought him presents (perfume, an easter egg, shirts). Sometimes he cancels dates but wants me to be available all the time when it suits him. Once did not show up at all and never called me. He went off for the weekend with his friends witout telling me and had his phone switched off. I was waiting at home for his call. He never apologised but ended up shouting at me that I worried his brother as I phoned his brother asking where he was and his brother didn't know. Yet, he wants me to be available for him when it suits him and gets angry when I am not. He gets angry easily for little things and has a temper. So I am not really sure he is a great guy .... He has no education and works in a factory and ever second week works on the night shift. I am studying for my Masters. His last girlfriends were vulgar and uneducated, one worked as a stripper. He used to work as a stripper. He is jealous and controlling and told him that I don't need to see my friends much any more.

The first night we slept together he took me to a hotel. I dont know why he didnt take me back to his place. Ive been there since.

I told him that I had been hurt in the past and that I wanted to take it slowly. He shouted and got angry and said "Everyone has been hurt in the past. Just get over it"

He is not understanding but expects me to be understanding and caring towards him.

Another time he got really angry because I asked to change bars and go to the bar next door as there were no seats at the bar we were at.

Once when we slept together I went to the bathroom to get condoms. Three days later he brought it up in an angry voice that I destroyed the romantic moment by going to the bathroom to get condoms.

Another time we arranged a blind date between my friend and his best friend and he got all angry and said "why would he phone her again as she won't sleep wth him, she is just looking for friendship" and was even shouting.

SHOULD I CONTINUE TO DATE HIM? WOULD MANY WOMEN TOLERATE THIS KIND OF BEHAVIOUR?

He also told me that I talk too much about my friends and their lives and that I should only talk about me and him and our future together.

Also, some of his friends occassionally go with prostitutes even though they are married.

Answer 1

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No.
No one should have to suffer the displeasure and soul crushing experience that would occur from dating this man.
I can't believe you are still with him.
If I was seeing a guy like that, I would have dumped his a** after the first incident, but you have put up with a laundry list of controlling and psychotic behaviors for some reason.
Just what is it about this loser that is so amazing that you must waste any further time with him? Why would you have wasted ANY time with him?
Move on already. Tell him to go f*ck himself. He's a controlling, insecure, jealous, angry douche and you should have the self respect to ditch him immediately.

Call him right now and tell him it's over. I don't care if he's asleep or at work. You need to end this IMMEDIATELY. That guy is a loser. It's just going to get much, much worse if you stay with him. My god, I don't know why some women put up with that garbage. You just let him treat you like a piece of trash. Why?!

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Answer 2

yikes is right :# ;+

Answer 3

dont trust him...seriously...
break it off now
he sounds horrible

Answer 4

You should not continue to date him and I don't know of any women that would tolerate this type of behavior! You are your own person and can make your own decisions. You do not need him controlling who you speak to and who your friends are. RUN away from this guy and DON'T think about looking back!

Answer 5

I think the "YIKES" in your question says it all. This guy seems obsessive, narcissistic and secretive. Why indeed did he take you to a hotelroom? Does he have another girl on the side? Maybe he wants you to send messages all the time so he 'knows' you're not onto him.

Dump this neantherthal. There are good guys out there. This guy doesn't deserve you. I for one would not accept his condescending behaviour. Don't tolerate this.

Answer 6

WOW. I just thought about you now girl. I must be psychic;)
Seriously, i just thought "where's the girl with the stripper question?"
lol, cause i remember you well and havent seen your question for a while. Its obvious you havent gotten over him.
Try to meet a new guy, im serious, meet someone else be it at a bar or wherever and it will help you get over this guy. I dont think he deserves you anymore. move on

Answer 7

Ditch him, he sounds like a ***** to be honest.
Not worth it at all, you will only feel worse in the long run.
Good luck with finding love in the future.

Answer 8

thanks 4 the 10 0000 word question!!..sweety he seriously has something wrong with him!!...hes a control freak!!..it wont ever get better so jump while u can....a boyfriend should treat u like an angel...letting u b whoever u r and wanna b and especially not b shoutin/gettin angry and makin u feel scared!..dont tolerate it u and all girls deserve better!! xxooxx goodluck and b strong.

Answer 9

Omg, RUN!!! Seriously that screams danger to me.Imagine what hel be like in a few months into the relationship!

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This question actualy reminds me of that mark wahlberg movie called 'fear' that relationship started like that aswel. lol.

Answer 10

ohoh! You should stop dating him. Not alot of women will tolerate this kind of behaviour. You should look for a guy that suit you :]

Answer 11

Wow, girl you sound like a genuinely nice person and you do NOT deserve to be treated like this! This guy sounds crzy. It sounds like you could do so much better!
You need to dump him and start over. Maybe live and love the single life for a while. Chicks before d****s, that's the saying. He shouldn't tell you what to do. You are obviously happy, so get out while you can before he puts complete lockdown on you!!!

You are in trouble, i feel for you. If you're scared about breaking up with him, i'm sure your friends will be there for you. If they're proper friends, they'll be there for you no matter what. Tell them the truth about everything, why you've drifted apart, and they'll be at your side.

Hope i've helped :S
Good luck and I wish you all the best. xx

Answer 12

Thanks for entertaining us with your question.

Oh and if its not a game then you already know the answer the mere fact its a question is an answer.

Move along and thank god your alive and able to move on

Answer 13

How many red flags do you need?
Trust your own judgement here.
You know that you should not be invloved with this guy already so
get rid of him and save your self some serious problems in the future.

And whatever his friends are doing, you can bet he is doing it too.
Birds of a feather flock together.

Prostitutes=std=compromising your life.
wake up and get out now.

good luck!!

Answer 14

This guy sounds like the boyfriend from hell.
BREAK IT OFF W/ THIS A$$HOLE NOW.
For the sake of your well being.
No man should ever treat a lady like that

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Answer 15

you started your question with YIKES. you know the answer yourself already. that guy sounds like a real wrong choice, move on, quickly.

Answer 16

DROP THE F....... LOSER NOW! dIdn't your mother teach you about men?
You may be getting a master's in school...But as far as men are concern you are very nieve child. If you keep going w/guys like this you are going to end up a dead child.
Try going out with one of those Mr. Nice guys in college. They are not as exciting as the Bad asses guys...But they will treat you right..Or do you not want that?
Find someone to make you happy...Until then take a break & learn what you really want in a relationship...By the way if this thing you call a man has your number...Change it! Better yet! Move to another state! The reason he took you to a hotel? He had another bimbo at his apartment. You talk about the uneducated stripper? You are uneducated on common sence w/men. Learn & don`t take any crap from any man...Put yourself first!

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Old & wise! well? Middle age!

Answer 17

Oh boy...he's a nightmare you need to wake up from. I'm guessing he's a stallion in bed because otherwise I can't for the life of me understand why you'd put up with it. I think you should run like hell before he knocks you up on purpose and traps you. When he's made you totally unavailable to other men, that's when things will REALLY get bad...think about your future and don't let him ruin it because he sounds very selfish and one-sided. He will manipulate the life right out of you. Don't live like that. Life is too short. Good luck.