How cheap is cheap? im with a cheap a$s?

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My partner is cheap, all the time. Now when i get money i always spend it on what we need, i never whinge and feel that well if we want to eat out, then lets do it. We have no kids and arnt paying mortage etc...when he is broke im always there to buy him anything he needs.

Now when it comes to his money, the day he gets it he will be quiet and not go places to spend money, he avoids it all costs. he will only eat once a day. Mind you he is arabic, i know sometimes they can be cheap and they eat a very basic diet his is chicken and rice, every day almost i cant stand no more chicken and rice.i will scream if i see another grilled drumstick. So come to today i want to make something, thai chicken curry, he is all for it, then its his turn to buy he changes his mind when i say get chicken breast fillet, i need it, he says no lets get a kilo of chicken drumsticks they are $2.50 a kilogram, i said why he said its cheaper i dont want to spend alot of money, i said to him how? he told me we can boil the chicken and peel the meat off, put that in the stir fry. I was so mad you cant believe. Then we had a massive fight in the car because i called him cheap, he says he isnt, but he is, and he dosent want to spend alot on food.cheap with everything..i pay more than him and i need to eat decent food, so he said to me okay i will cook myself and if you want to buy expensive stuff then by for yourself. Im still angry and want to know if this IS cheap and he is being?!!

after the arguement we didnt buy food, he just went to macdonalds and spent $15 there? i thought he wanted to not spend alot of money? oh yeh and he ate half my fries too :(

Answer 1

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Your bf is cheaper than the Aussie kings cross hookers! Lol

You will always be settling for less and paying for more while ever your with him
This issue is not going to get better. Can you handle that? I personally would consider letting him go so he can find someone else as tight as a fishes @ss to match him.

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thanks great answer and made me giggle lol

Answer 2

Think about disolving the "partnership." This is too one-sided to be any good for you.

Answer 3

I can only assume that you put this question in Marriage & Divorce because you want to marry this guy someday. My advice: don't.

Answer 4

Dump him.

Answer 5

I once had a cheap boyfriend and it was the worst. Cheap people will stay cheap and will never make u proud. They will always disappoint u and bring u down. Do yourself a favor and find someone who money wouldn't matter to them as much as your happiness. Good luck.

Answer 6

damn, that is cheap, will you have a whole chicken for thanksgiving ?

Answer 7

You didn't tell me how much money he makes & his financial obligations. It doesn't sound like the guy has a lot of money, after all you said "when he is broke I'm always there to buy him anything he needs." It's hard for me to call a guy who doesn't make A LOT of money "cheap" because he skimps on having top quality food in the house. Hell, there was a time in my life when I certainly couldn't have bought NY Strips, Ribeye etc. and settled for the very cheap cuts of meat.

I imagine it is emasculating for him to have YOU cover for him when he is broke. That means he has no savings & ya, it does make sense to go CHEAP on food with you have no "savings" and have to rely on someone else to bail you out.

Answer 8

Wow! You sound like me an my wife when we first got married 12 years ago! I'm cheap,and as bad as your husband... However we did find a solution that worked well for us.

Here's what I suggest in terms of finances: Open up 4 banking accounts. Let me explain because me and my wife had similar problems in the past. until we created this system and for the last 10 years of our marriage, no arguments about money. Here's how it works:

The HOUSE checking account: This is really a joint checking account where you and your husband put money you need to run the house. This includes Rent, utilities, and Food. You need to hammer out a REALISTIC monthly budget. You have to discuss who pays what and is responsibility for what each month. So before yeither of you spend a dime, you know the house is covered.

YOUR ACCOUNT: This is the money left over from your paycheck after you pay into the HOUSE account. This is really "Play money". You can spend or save it anyway you see fit. It has ZERO affect on anything. He has no say in how you spend it. If you run out of money in this account, then that's the end of play time.

HIS ACCOUNT: Same as yours. If he wants to be cheap, so be it. He can save and save all he wants. Also if he is short on the bills on some months, he can dip into this account to pay the bills.

EMERGENCY/ FUTURE GOALS SAVINGS ACCOUNT: This account is a high yield savings account for long term savings. Its meant for long term goals like buying a house or starting up a family. It is also great when an emergency happens. You guys discuss how much from each paycheck you want to INVEST in your safety and Future. It doesn't have to be much. It Just has to be consistent. Even $20 per paycheck can add up over the course of a year.


Since we started using this method, me and my wife have NEVER had an argument about money. The only conflict tha came up was early on when discuss the costs on the monthly budget. I usually argue we can go cheaper on food, but my wife made a point saying we need a little buffer on important things like food, just in case the price jumps. As long as we stay on budget, I'm fine with things.

Don't let poor financial planning ruin your marriage.

I hope this helps you out like it did my marriage.

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Married 12 years with 2 kids.

Answer 9

You are with a cheap-o. Tell him you need to set aside mad money to do with as you wish and if he doesn't get it, move on.