Are you putting up with a family member on Thanksgiving day because you have no choice?

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I am, most of my hypocrite family who wear their heirlooms on Thanksgiving and the next day they put back their horns. I do it for my mom who is old but not because I want to.

Answer 1

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We don't do Thanksgiving here in Australia, however I often have to put up with family I don't like just to keep the peace...I had to invite my step-Mother's mother (my step-Grandmother) to my own wedding to keep my Dad happy, even though the old b***h treated me like cr@p from the moment she met me as a 4 year old.

She used to buy presents for her biological grandkids & give them right in front of me & then say to me "You have your own Nanna to buy you presents" & then she expected an invite to my wedding. Dad held me to ransom over it & said that unless I invited her he would not pay the final installment to the caterers...I sat her in "siberia", draughty door on one side (winter wedding) & speaker on the other...she caught a cab home right after dinner!

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Payback's a *****, isn't it. lol

Answer 2

girl don't worry i think we all have to do this at some point in time. I know come tomorrow my mother in law is coming over and i really do dislike here to the highest extent possible she is a very mean woman, but i will deal with her B.S. for one day for my husband. As hard as it is to keep my mouth shut i will try, but im sure we will get in to it about something because she is so controlling.

Answer 3

i know what you mean. we don't have Thanksgiving in the UK but i have had the same problem at christmas. i had to suffer it last year with my boyfriends family, as i don't have any family of my own. i'm not being ungrateful, as it was kind of them to invite me. but when you don't get on with half of them, it is a long day. i was absolutely dreading it this year, but i put my foot down last month and said, i was definitely not going again this year. to be honest, i have been dreading it since June! i hate the pretence of it all, everybody being nice to each other because it's Christmas/Thanksgiving, and then when they have a few too many drinks the truth starts coming out, and all the snide comments. and then you get some body who's drunk crying in the corner over the death of their cat 5 years ago. I really can do without it.

Answer 4

Heh - almost. But thankfully she (cough cough) "got sick" and won't be joining us. She doesn't want to spend it with us any more than we want to spend it with her. To keep peace and make my mother happy, she was invited. To maintain that peace and have a much more pleasant holiday, she's "sick".

But had she shown up, I would have smiled, wished her a happy holiday, fed her, and sent her on her way. Sometimes that's the best you can do. Fortunately, I dodged a bullet this year.

Answer 5

Hmmm. You are in my boat, or me in yours, one. My mother just informed me last night that she resents me for being alive and that I should have been the one to catch a bullet instead of my brother. This was 20 some yrs ago, he was murdered by a 13 yr old over a girl. So yeah, and then 20 minutes later turns around nice as pie and says, are you cooking thanksgiving dinner. I was appauled, but said "well, my kids need to eat, so to answer your question, yeah my kids are eating thanksgiving dinner. I dont know if I really hate or feel sorry for my own mother. She is 59 and there is no reason for this uglyness, but to be ugly.
Remember that some folks try to get to you and your emotions on purpose. After I move in a week(she let us stay there, I was surprised) I am taking her off my contact list, and I will play dead to my mother, because I now know the truth and Me and my girls dont need the BS.

I hope this helps. It kinda helped me because I got to type this chit my mother produced.

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Answer 7

Not anymore, but isn't that Thanksgiving and the holidays are about? Putting aside differences for a day?

Answer 8

I did but after last year's holiday season I decided to have it at my house with my kids and hubby and a few friends. Last year the cops were called and my brother-in-law was arrested. He is now serving 12 years in prison for hitting his sister once when she hit him 7 times before he touched her. If I go over there I will be tempted to slap the life right out of her. So I just chose not to go.