Customer hit on me...but, I am married....?

Question

We went out as a group (my wife is in her last semester of school and is spending most of her time studying) and this customer hit on me. I work in a hotel and she is a stewardress and she comes in every few weeks. A group of us have become friendly and we go out every so often.

She told me has fallen for me. The next day she apologized and she said she was really drunk. I told her I was happily married and I flattered. But, I was not interested.

My wife is so busy now and she our relationship is not the same. In the meanwhile, it seems I am missing opportunities out there to be happy with other women...what do I do?

Answer 1

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let the women be..I promise you,that youll regret it."the grass isnt greener on the otherside"..please take that advice. When you and the mistress are all finished,youll see that your marriage is over and youll have nothing.Then the loneliness will hit in and youll regret taking a chance.Be faithful and when you and your wife find the time,make it last and go all out.Spice it up!

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Answer 2

Keep it in your pants!

Answer 3

go, be with her...discreetly.

honestly, your marraige will probably end when your wife finishes school anyway.

Answer 4

you are honest with your wife and ask her if she minds you having sex with other women, until she finishes school.... :D

Answer 5

You're are married so you have to decide is a fling with someone that will bring momentary happiness worth throwing away a relationship with someone you love? Being married has it's up's and down's wether children or your wife being busy but if you love her you would never do anything to hurt her. Just imagine how she would feel if she found out.

Answer 6

What do you do? Quit thinking with the thing between your legs and stay the hell away from this marriage wrecking hoe. Is one night really worth it to lose your wife? The one you 'love'?

It is just not worth it! If your lacking something you need to fix it within your marriage not outside of it. Your wife is working hard to make Both of your lives better.. you need to appreciate what she is doing for you and work hard to do the same for her.

I am not trying to be mean.. but guys can be idiots sometimes when they use other things then their brains to make decisions..

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Answer 7

Use restraint.

Answer 8

Clearly you are lying to yourself if you were happily married there would be no questioning about other women. You and your wife need to have a little chat.

Answer 9

You be a man and remember the vows you took. Did you tell your wife this woman hit on you? If not, you should. You also need to tell your wife that you're feeling lonely. Make sure she HEARS you and if she's not listening tell her you want to see a marriage counselor (that should get your point across). By the way, you might get more attention from your wife if you start helping her out (remember to bring her flowers/gifts from time to time, tell her she's beautiful, tell her you love her, compliment her, help her clean the house, do the laundry, take out the trash...). If in the end you want to go out and have sex with someone or start up a new relationship - PLEASE GET A DIVORCE FIRST. I just hope you don't have kids yet...

Answer 10

Talk to your wife first. Relationships change over time and you will fall in and out of love many times over the course of your marriage. Its the RESPECT and COMMITMENT you made that should endure. Tell your wife that miss her and knows how busy she is but you feel like something is missing. Why is your wife going to school in the first place? Is it to get a better job in the long run that will help support the home? She won't always be in school.

There is no guarantee that you will be happy with this other woman. Think about it. If she is a flight attendant, how many hotels do you think she stays in and how many other guys do you think she has hit on? She was drunk, lonely, and probably horny. That is not a good reason to destroy your marriage. It sounds like you love your wife and respect your marriage. Most affairs happen because of lack of communication. My husband cheated on me and it broke my heart and it still hurts like hell. He didn't tell me what I needed from him so I didn't know what to give. Tell your wife how you feel and plan something special to rekindle the romance. You might be surprised to find that she is missing some things in the relationship as well.

Answer 11

The enemy was able to plant that evil seed, didn't he?

Considering cheating on your wife or leave her just because she is busy is no excuse. If you are serious about what you are saying, think twice and tighten your brain to your head so it does not fall between your legs.

If you are not happy and do not love your wife, be honest with her but do not scoop that low, remain a man at all times.

Answer 12

You should tell this event to your wife,may she realize the fact and give you a time and it is a right way,you should think that if she do like this then what will you do?-------Be faithful to your family.

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Moral law of Islam.

Answer 13

well have you tried talking to your wife about this situation? honestly, sometimes we believe that the grass is greener on the other side, but I can speak from experience, that most of the time it's not. I think the feeling of being wanted by someone other than your wife gives you a boost in self esteem which makes you doubt others aspects. If you are truelly unhappy, than talk to your wife and you two need to decide the best outcome.

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being married and feeling the same way and acting upon it.

Answer 14

Keep on doing what you are doing.

Answer 15

You either keep your vow to your wife, or you go ahead and have a fling, your the one who has to look in the mirror each morning, so you decide what you want to do. You must be thinking about it to some degree.

Answer 16

Its simple really, you keep it zipped or you cheat. Just be prepared to deal with the consequences if its the latter.

Or you could try working on your marriage a bit.......just a suggestion, didnt it occur to you?

Answer 17

You should seriously re-think what happiness is. "Happy with other women"=having sex? Grow up.
Instead of going out with your friendly group, do some nice things for you and your wife to stay close in these busy times. You have to build a marriage.

Answer 18

well the flight attendant got away, but don't let others, always be ready for the opportunity

Answer 19

Your wife is still in school and someone hit on you. It's a f@#%$^*& compliment. Your married so wait for your wife to finish school. It isn't right to cheat on her and it's a sin. Asking your wife to have sex with someone else is like asking a prostitute for $30.00.

Answer 20

is your wife thinking the same or is she getting education to help build on her career and finances for you both. listen to john grass is so not greener and you will be left with nothing at the end.

Answer 21

You continue to be faithful, and you pull your wife away from the books every so often. If she gets angry with you, tell her the truth about the way you feel. Tell her you feel neglected.

Answer 22

so what, go for it if you like her. I am a married woman having affair with another married man. No big deal.

Answer 23

So... your wife has lots of classes and she is in her last semester. There is this man in her class who loves to talk with her and they go out with some other students for coffee. Your wife does not mind his attention, because he is very attractive and clearly interested in her, and her relationship with you is just not the same as it used to be. This man told her that he thinks of her all the time, cannot get his mind off of her. Your wife is tempted. After all, it seems she is missing out on opportunities out there with other men... What should she do?