How do you know if your ready to "do it"??? And how should we "do it" if we do?

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Okay so we have been dating a year, we have known each other since we were two, we are both virgins, we both love each other. I have the most amazing boyfriend ever he's always there for me and he is not pushing me to have sex with me in anyway, he just says "we will do it whenever it feels right to you" and i think I want to do "it" with him i'm just nervous I think, so i keep telling him i'm not ready yet and he says "okay baby, it's no big deal". I think the real thing i'm scared about is getting pregnant, but he says he will use protection and he has thought about that to and he wants to stop when ummm "stuff" starts to come out. Also i've heard that doing this with someone causes you feelings about them to change sometimes for the better sometimes for the worts... I don't know what I want to do? Do you think I'm ready? What are the chances of us getting prego? and how should we do it the first time??? Help???

Answer 1

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Maybe you should just start slow. Try other things then "going all the way". Touching, kissing, rubbing, oral sex, etc. you can even try getting comfortable with his "youknow" being against your "youknow" LOL eventually you'll know when you're ready and you don't have to push yourself.. just take it slow and learn together... one day it will happen and you will know what to do. As for the getting pregnant part, use a condom. Using a condom is the best way to do this and just relax about all the horror stories... if he uses a condom and pulls out before he cums you will be perfectly fine.. if you need extra assurance, get on birth control (although I really don't think birthcontrol is good for women but thats your choice) If you're worried about condoms breaking.. just understand that condoms are made NOT to break. The only things that can put you at risk for this are if you use old condoms, having really rough sex, or you are very dry down there... you could even get lubricated ones or use spermicidal lubricant. Heres what i suggest. Go out and buy condoms with spermacidal lubricant. When you're ready, go for it and don't over think it, dont worry.. Just make love to the man you love!!!

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THANK YOU!!!!!!! That helped out so much!

Answer 2

get on the pill or use condoms youre fine. You do it by taking his pee and putting it in you. Youre ready if its been a year get lost

Answer 3

Well.... I don't think you should until you are absolutely comfortable and ready. You do sound quite young and unplanned pregnancy happens all the time. If you do decide you are ready I would also recommend getting on birth control. Remember once it's gone you can't get it back. There is nothing wrong with waiting. Just go with your gut.

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Very young mommy!!!

Answer 4

I don't know...You sound young....But when you think the time is right go for it. Just make sure he has a condom. STAY PROTECTED! :)

Good Luck! :)

Answer 5

I think you should wait until you can say sex, and orgasm without the terms "do it" and "stuff". Sex is a big deal and can greatly escalate the intensity of a relationship. I am not trying to sound mean, but the terms you used make you sound young and immature about it. Maybe you should wait a little longer.

Also if you do decided to "do it", get on birth control and have him use condoms and chances are you won't get pregnant.

Answer 6

Obviously you sound young and not at all ready. There is plenty of time for that when you are older. Enjoy being together and being a kid! Even if you use birth control or condoms it is never 100% safe. Unless you are committed and mature enough to take on the responsibilities of having a baby then you are not ready. Having sex is a very big step and not one that should be taken lightly, if your boyfriend also does not mind waiting then why rush. Your whole adult life will be filled with responsibilities for now enjoy being young. You don't need to add complications.

Answer 7

Sweetie i was the same way two months ago.you sound young thou.well i think you should do it to get it over with.USE A CONDOM!!well do not do it when your on your period because one its gross and two you can get pregnant.if you use a condom and pull it out before he cums you can not get pregnant.your feelings don'tt changethat's's all in peoples head.most likely you will become more attached to the person but i mean it varies.no the chances of you getting pregnant are very minimal espesially if you are using a condom.well i think the first time you should do it in the bedroom with no one homee of course and go slow.well use protection.good luck and have fun.

Answer 8

If really wnat to "do It' go for it. just wait until really ready if unsure. but it you then bcs good to. i have nothing against brithcontrol. my sis had to have it to regulate her ummmmmm......... "time' and shes fine. shes been on it for 3 years now and noin hapened. so if you want to. "then do it".use condoms. And if you want Use B.C.