What should I do when...?

Question

A year ago my best friend (guy) asked me out. Knowing that I loved him as a person and that he wouldn't be my friend if I turned him down I said yes. A couple days later I realized it scared me and I couldn't eat or sleep or anything so I told him I really felt more like friends and I wanted to be best friends like we were. He got really mad at me and stopped talking to me. A couple months later he sent me a text telling me how sorry he was and that he was getting Baptized and wanted to invite me. So I went to his baptism and a week later he turned away from God. I haven't talked to him since but I have a feeling that he will contact me soon. If this happens should I forgive him again, I want to do the Christian thing but I get a knot in my stomach every time I see or think of him, I'm not sure if it's love or fear. I'm messed up all over. I used to not believe in teens falling in love and I don't think I could love him especially when the last thing he said to me was "Leave me the f*** alone" but I can't stop thinking about him (and this is a year later...)

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Thank you so much for your answers, especially yours Ashlee: I've been thinking about it but not sure if I should. My close friends who were there to help me through the whole thing are tired of me not getting over him.

Answer 1

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Well, it could be one or both types of love.

When you love someone in any way, shape or form you are going to be concerned for them and their wellbeing and you are also going to think about them even when you haven't talked in ages and the last thing they said to you was very hurtful.

I would try to contact him and just tell him you were thinking about him and wondering how he has been or something along those lines.

If he responds in a cruel manner, you have no other choice but to just leave him alone and try to move on. If something was meant to be he will come back around.

Best of luck, cupcake.

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I text him this morning saying "Hey. Happy Thanksgiving, I don't want to bother you but I just wanted to let you know that I am thankful for the months of happiness and pain you have brought me" and he replied "You're welcome."

Answer 2

maybe your more then friends...love??