I was widowed 17 years ago at the age of 21, and left with a 16 month old daughter. The circumstances surrounding my husband's death were quite tragic. His family was devastated, of course and to ease their own pain, they blamed me. Nasty things were said, and because I needed to move on with my life, I broke off contact with my in-laws. My daughter recently turned 18 and the family has tracked her down and are trying to build a relationship with her. As an adult, she has the right to enter into any relationship she wants, and I'll support her if this is what she chooses to do. The problem is that they want to reestablish a relationship with me, and I'm having difficulty leaving my past feelings in the past. For 17 years I thought I'd gotten past the hurt, but the idea of meeting any of these people again fills me with fear and anger. Can anyone give me some perspective on why I'm still feeling this way? I'm happy in my life - I don't know if I want to bring up old hurt.