my ex is upset that I've realized I am a lesbian and we can't date anymore? I feel guilty even though I should feel guilty for who I am?
Ex boyfriend we'll call him Mark.
Mark and I met at work March of 2018, and we hit it off right away. There was an obvious mutual attraction, and we quickly became friends and started dating soon after. Sadly, my family and I were moving so we only dated for about two months and then broke up due to us not wanting to do long distance, but he said he'd wait for me, even though I let it be known he didn't have to. We kept in touch and after the move, got back together around September and dated for a year since we didn't count our short lived break up. A few days after our 1 year, he broke up with me, and said he wanted to wait for me. I slowly lost feeling for him as the months went by and by June 2019, he said he was not going to date anyone else and wait for me, then July 2019, he said he has a new girlfriend. I didn't care though, sure I was a bit hurt, but it wasn't bad, also because I wasn't expecting him to wait for me, he's his own man and can do as he pleases, I'm not some controlling ex, I didn't really care. September of 2019, he said he and his girlfriend broke up and he wanted me back, but I turned him down, and by then, I lost almost all my feelings for him. Then by October 2019, I learned I was a lesbian. When I told him, he said he's not mad I'm a lesbian and he's happy, I'm happy, but upset he "can't have me" and that made me feel sort've guilty. Is it reasonable to feel guilty?
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THANKS.1 AnswerMental Health1 year ago
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your opinions?2 AnswersPsychology2 years ago
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