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  • Please read this and HELP ME!?

    How do I stop relationship

    OCD and intrusive thoughts?

    I have been with my bf for

    almost a year. We dated in

    2011 and he wasnt what I

    thought was my type but

    something about him got to

    me and I have never felt this

    way about anybody else. We

    are best friends, we live

    together, we are always

    together and we are so beyond

    in love. I am head over heals

    for him. I always had fears of

    him leaving me because he

    used to be a jerk. He has a

    child with another woman and

    he thought he needed to be

    with her and cheated on me...

    multiple times. It destroyed

    me. I could not imagine life

    without him. He came to

    terms with his heart finally and

    realized he truly is in love with

    me and only me. He treats me

    so well now and we are doing

    better than ever. We want to

    get married and have babies in

    the future. He has proved to

    me he loves me and I have

    what I worked so hard for. But

    after the last time he cheated

    before he changed, it gave me

    relationship OCD. I never ever

    would leave him because its

    not what I want, at all. I just

    want us to be successful which

    I know we can and will be, but

    the intrusive thoughts like to

    make me feel like im falling

    out of love with him, that I

    "want" to break up, that im

    losing attraction (yeah right),

    that I should try testing my

    feelings and break it off, that

    im gonna leave him and be

    single or for some other guy,

    and all this other crap that is a

    complete ridiculous joke. Ive

    had OCD for a long time

    (intrusive thoughts, murder

    type thoughts and sexual

    orientation ocd) but never

    about something so ridiculous.

    I get so upset and sad and

    guilty because its not true and

    I feel horrible for the awful

    and crazy thoughts. I tend to

    try to fight my OCD and it

    always makes it worse. He is

    the one and I know it. Its one

    of those things where you just

    know. He knows all about this

    and is completely supportice

    and understanding because of

    what he put me through. I

    even did like a three second

    "breakup" and it wasnt even

    real because we immediately

    got "back together" and knew

    I wasnt serious. Im filled with

    anxiety each day because I

    feel guilty and I know in my

    head and heart that I truly and

    honestly dont want to and will

    not leave him. He is my heart

    and the love of my life and I

    want to start our family some

    day and have a close

    relationship with his daughter.

    When he gets mad at me and

    we fight sometimes it breifly

    goes away and I worry that hes

    going to break up with me. I

    still fear it sometimes becauaw

    I never want to lose him. So

    yeah. Why should I break up

    with the man I want to share

    my life with to prove a point?

    Oh thats right, I shouldnt. I

    have a dumb mental illness

    and just writing all this helps

    make me feel better because

    it sounds insanely ridiculous

    and I know how I really feel.

    We plan on doinf couples

    counseling and individual

    therapy to make our lives

    better, but in the mean time

    what can I do to make this

    bullshit stop?! He is my world,

    my EVERYTHING. Please help!

    Thank you SO much!!

    1 AnswerOther - Diseases8 years ago
  • Please read this and HELP ME!?

    How do I stop relationship

    OCD and intrusive thoughts?

    I have been with my bf for

    almost a year. We dated in

    2011 and he wasnt what I

    thought was my type but

    something about him got to

    me and I have never felt this

    way about anybody else. We

    are best friends, we live

    together, we are always

    together and we are so beyond

    in love. I am head over heals

    for him. I always had fears of

    him leaving me because he

    used to be a jerk. He has a

    child with another woman and

    he thought he needed to be

    with her and cheated on me...

    multiple times. It destroyed

    me. I could not imagine life

    without him. He came to

    terms with his heart finally and

    realized he truly is in love with

    me and only me. He treats me

    so well now and we are doing

    better than ever. We want to

    get married and have babies in

    the future. He has proved to

    me he loves me and I have

    what I worked so hard for. But

    after the last time he cheated

    before he changed, it gave me

    relationship OCD. I never ever

    would leave him because its

    not what I want, at all. I just

    want us to be successful which

    I know we can and will be, but

    the intrusive thoughts like to

    make me feel like im falling

    out of love with him, that I

    "want" to break up, that im

    losing attraction (yeah right),

    that I should try testing my

    feelings and break it off, that

    im gonna leave him and be

    single or for some other guy,

    and all this other crap that is a

    complete ridiculous joke. Ive

    had OCD for a long time

    (intrusive thoughts, murder

    type thoughts and sexual

    orientation ocd) but never

    about something so ridiculous.

    I get so upset and sad and

    guilty because its not true and

    I feel horrible for the awful

    and crazy thoughts. I tend to

    try to fight my OCD and it

    always makes it worse. He is

    the one and I know it. Its one

    of those things where you just

    know. He knows all about this

    and is completely supportice

    and understanding because of

    what he put me through. I

    even did like a three second

    "breakup" and it wasnt even

    real because we immediately

    got "back together" and knew

    I wasnt serious. Im filled with

    anxiety each day because I

    feel guilty and I know in my

    head and heart that I truly and

    honestly dont want to and will

    not leave him. He is my heart

    and the love of my life and I

    want to start our family some

    day and have a close

    relationship with his daughter.

    When he gets mad at me and

    we fight sometimes it breifly

    goes away and I worry that hes

    going to break up with me. I

    still fear it sometimes becauaw

    I never want to lose him. So

    yeah. Why should I break up

    with the man I want to share

    my life with to prove a point?

    Oh thats right, I shouldnt. I

    have a dumb mental illness

    and just writing all this helps

    make me feel better because

    it sounds insanely ridiculous

    and I know how I really feel.

    We plan on doinf couples

    counseling and individual

    therapy to make our lives

    better, but in the mean time

    what can I do to make this

    bullshit stop?! He is my world,

    my EVERYTHING. Please help!

    Thank you SO much!!

    1 AnswerBooks & Authors8 years ago
  • How do I stop relationship OCD and intrusive thoughts?

    I have been with my bf for almost a year. We dated in 2011 and he wasnt what I thought was my type but something about him got to me and I have never felt this way about anybody else. We are best friends, we live together, we are always together and we are so beyond in love. I am head over heals for him. I always had fears of him leaving me because he used to be a jerk. He has a child with another woman and he thought he needed to be with her and cheated on me... multiple times. It destroyed me. I could not imagine life without him. He came to terms with his heart finally and realized he truly is in love with me and only me. He treats me so well now and we are doing better than ever. We want to get married and have babies in the future. He has proved to me he loves me and I have what I worked so hard for. But after the last time he cheated before he changed, it gave me relationship OCD. I never ever would leave him because its not what I want, at all. I just want us to be successful which I know we can and will be, but the intrusive thoughts like to make me feel like im falling out of love with him, that I "want" to break up, that im losing attraction (yeah right), that I should try testing my feelings and break it off, that im gonna leave him and be single or for some other guy, and all this other crap that is a complete ridiculous joke. Ive had OCD for a long time (intrusive thoughts, murder type thoughts and sexual orientation ocd) but never about something so ridiculous. I get so upset and sad and guilty because its not true and I feel horrible for the awful and crazy thoughts. I tend to try to fight my OCD and it always makes it worse. He is the one and I know it. Its one of those things where you just know. He knows all about this and is completely supportice and understanding because of what he put me through. I even did like a three second "breakup" and it wasnt even real because we immediately got "back together" and knew I wasnt serious. Im filled with anxiety each day because I feel guilty and I know in my head and heart that I truly and honestly dont want to and will not leave him. He is my heart and the love of my life and I want to start our family some day and have a close relationship with his daughter. When he gets mad at me and we fight sometimes it breifly goes away and I worry that hes going to break up with me. I still fear it sometimes becauaw I never want to lose him. So yeah. Why should I break up with the man I want to share my life with to prove a point? Oh thats right, I shouldnt. I have a dumb mental illness and just writing all this helps make me feel better because it sounds insanely ridiculous and I know how I really feel. We plan on doinf couples counseling and individual therapy to make our lives better, but in the mean time what can I do to make this bullshit stop?! He is my world, my EVERYTHING. Please help! Thank you SO much!!

    1 AnswerPsychology8 years ago
  • OCD/Intrusive thoughts are ruining my life. Please help?

    I have been suffering with ocd/intrusive thoughts for years and recently its been taking over my life. I am absolutely in love with my Boyfriend. He means the world to me and ive never been this happy. I think he's gorgeous and amazing. But since im so happy, the thoughts are taking over and trying to sabotage me. I feel like it's wrong to think another guy is cute or hot or just attractive in general. My mind tries to tell me I have crushes on other guys when I have absolutely no interest in getting with them. All I want is my Boyfriend. We live together. We're getting our own apartment. And I tell him some of this stuff and even he doesn't think it's wrong but in my mind, I feel like having any attraction to someone else IS in fact wrong. I'd never cheat on him. I seriously haven't loved any other guy the way I love him. He is so sexy and cute and adorable and I want to be with him forever. He's the man I want to marry. What do you think? How can I get over this? I KNOW I dont have a crush on ANYONE else, but my mind (OCD) is trying to tell me I do. HELP :( It makes me feel wrong for even looking at another guy or thinking other guys are attractive. Its making me feel like im going to kill and destroy my relationship. Please, help me. What can I do to get over this? I was on anti depressants and ocd meds but they made it worse. I love him more than anything. This is making me feel numb and sad and hurt because I feel like im going to ruin this. We just got our first apt.with roomies.. I just need advice.

    3 AnswersPsychology8 years ago
  • OCD/ Instrusive thoughts help?? How do I ignore it?

    My ocd always makes me over think and come up with crazy scenarios that i dont even want think or feel. what do i do to overcome this?

    2 AnswersPsychology8 years ago
  • Is this considered wrong, or cheating?

    My most serious Boyfriend ever and I have been doing amazing. We dated a year ago and **** was bad, he was the worst, but we didnt talk for months and now hes totally awesome. He's improved so much and truthfully, I have no interest in any other guy. I love him so much, and he makes me so happy. It's crazy. Today, I was taking the bus home and noticed this guy kept looking at me. I got off the bus and sat down and he ended up sitting by me. He kept looking at me and I was waiting for my friend and her boyfriend to pick me up. They get there so I get up and leave and I noticed he kept looking at me so when I got in the car I told my friend to go up to him and ask him if/and or why he was checking me out. I don't know why, I guess I was just curious. Anyways, she didn't do it and we went on with our night. I didnt speak to the guy once. But for some reason I feel so wrong. And I dont know why. I feel like karma is gonna bite me in the *** for this, and I dont understand why. What is your opinion?

    3 AnswersOther - Family & Relationships9 years ago
  • scabby pimples in pubic hair area?

    ive had redish pimples / in grown hair type marks on my bikini region/ pubic hair area for awhile. recently they started looking like scabby rashy pimples? is this normal?

    3 AnswersSkin Conditions9 years ago
  • Pull out method and next choice emergancy contraceptive?

    I had sex unprotected sex sometime extremely early sunday morning, and we used the pull out method. he got his *** all over my stomach but theres always a chance of precum entering the vagina, etc. so i took next choice around 4 yesterday (monday). is it likely ill be okay? [not pregnant]

    3 AnswersPregnancy9 years ago
  • How many calories do I need to burn a day to lose weight fast?

    I'm 17 and weight 258. I want to get to 170. How many calories a day am I looking to burn?

    3 AnswersDiet & Fitness9 years ago
  • Working out, Treadmill workout question?

    I found it's really easy for me to do 15 minutes walking at 3mph, maybe I could even move it up to 3.5

    but my question is i'm looking to drop weight fast so how many times a day should I do 15 minute walks on the treadmill at that speed to get fast results? Any tips?

    2 AnswersDiet & Fitness9 years ago
  • How can I lose a lot weight fast? How much can I lose in a month?

    I'm 17 and I was diagnosed as obese. I've always used food for comfort, and now I'm just sick of it. I'm a really pretty girl but my weight is my flaw. What kind of tredmill workouts can I do to lose a lot of weight? And how much could I lose in about a month. What should I do for meals? I'm around 258 pounds, and my goal is 170.

    3 AnswersDiet & Fitness9 years ago
  • Left side of jaw extreme pain.?

    3-4 days ago I woke up and my jaw hurt really bad. It's okay when I don't open my mouth and talk and it's decent if i talk but its really hard to eat and it hurts to swallow. i don't understand if i slept on it wrong or what but it hurts really bad. what could this be? how cani make it go away?

    2 AnswersPain & Pain Management9 years ago
  • Why aren't body piercings/ mods/ tattoos accepted in the workplace? Do you think they should?

    I'm writing a blog for school about how I think body mods, piercings, and tats should be accepted in the workplace.

    Why do you think they should or shouldnt be?

    what could the government do to make this more accepting?

    Any thoughts ideas opinions suggestions?

    7 AnswersOther - Skin & Body10 years ago
  • My boyfriend and I had sex, now my vagina smells awful?

    I've had bacterial vaginosis before, and a yeast infection but those were both treated. We had sex about 10 times in 2 days, and now my vagina smells so disgusting! IS this normal?

    10 AnswersWomen's Health10 years ago
  • Where can I take pictures of my pregnant friend? (Maternity Photography)?

    I'm a photographer, not professional but I take some pretty great photos. I have a friend who's due in June and in a few weeks I'll be taking pictures of her. I have some pose ideas, but some of them won't be clothed as a lot of maternity photos are taken this way. I'm willing do do outdoor shots, but I need ideas for a location. Also, What could I use for back drops?

    4 AnswersPhotography10 years ago
  • I'm afraid that I will never have feelings for a guy again?

    I'm 17 and I have OCD and Anxiety and Depression. I see a therapist, but I can't help but be anxious. Lately I've been fearing I'll never fall in love with a guy or have feelings for one again. I've been used for sexual things a lot, and I'm not easy anymore. I used to be really easy. I'd give guys what they wanted thinking they'd like me. The guys that are my type seem to be hard to find or if I do they screw me over . I've never had a REAL relationship, but I've dated guys. Sad part is I've slept with 5.. And I'm not proud of my number. Only one of the guys I had sex with was actually like "making love" because there was so much emotions and it was just amazing. I'm afraid it will never happen again. I'm afraid I'll end up turning into a lesbian, and I'm not into girls like this. But my anxiety is attacking me. I just want to find the guy of my dreams some day and I'm scared I'll never get butterflies from a guy again. :/

    3 AnswersSingles & Dating10 years ago
  • Possible kidney infections? PLEASE HELP!?

    I've had this odor and itch problem in my private area since after i had sex with an ex bf in september. ive gone to the gyno and been tested for stds and stuff. i was clean of stds and they said it was vaginosis then yeast and then nothing but the symptoms are still here. im freaking out that i could have a kidney infection. could my kidney be failing? :'( im only 17

    2 AnswersInfectious Diseases10 years ago
  • My vagina smells"???

    Whenever I pee it seems to make my vagina smell, and it's itchy. I've had this problem since September and gone to the doctors about it quite a few times. I was std tested and was clean. First it was Vaginosis, then yeast infec., then vaginosis and i went back and they said its gone and there's nothing but it still SMELLS and ITCHES!! what is wrong with me? =[

    3 AnswersWomen's Health10 years ago
  • What do I do about my belly button piercing?

    I have had my belly button pierced for a few weeks now. It was really swollen and infected. I'm an apprentice piercer and I went to my teacher (owner of the shop) and she changed the ring to a hoop for healing it. It doesn't hurt anymore, but it's been extremely crusty and theres a giant red spot on the top part of it. How can I make this go away? I don't want to take it out.

    4 AnswersOther - Skin & Body10 years ago
  • How much weight will I lose doing this?

    I'm trying to lose weight FAST. I'm 17 and I weigh around 263 pounds. I decided I really wanted to do something about my weight so I now have a treadmill. I do about 30 minutes a day on it going between 1-4 mph, mainly 2-4 mph. How much weight do you think I'll lose? Let's say by July?

    5 AnswersDiet & Fitness10 years ago