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  • I need honest feedback from guys AND girls!?

    So, I've been seeing this girl for a few weeks now.  I like her.  But I'm still trying to see where this is going.  We have NOT slept together yet.  She's a bit of a club girl.  I'm totally not that type.  She has her own thing...  I'd be lying if I said it didn't bother me a little.  But I also know that people are different.

    Something happened last night...  and it really upset me.  I haven't told her yet.  She told me that a male friend of hers gave her $100 to treat herself.  Apparently, he does this from time to time...  Just gifts her money.  She says she never asks for money, but he'll just give it to her.  I know nothing about this guy.  So, I don't know if they used to date.  Hell, he could be gay for all I know.  Still, it bothers me.  I'll tell you why...

    1. I've been through this and it NEVER ends well.  "He's just a friend!  What's wrong with friends giving friends gifts?!"  This almost always ends with, "He told me he's always been in love with me.  I'm so confused!"

    2. I feel like this sets a precedent.  If I speak my mind, this could turn into, "If you don't like it, then YOU should give me the gifts!"

    3. Let's say for the sake of argument that he's gay...  It seems kinda tacky on her part to accept money from a friend regularly.  I feel like it speaks to her personality.

    I'm a 43 year old man.  My ex-wife cheated on me.  But I don't want to make other women pay for my ex-wife's decisions.  Still, this situation really bothers me.

    What do you all think?

    4 AnswersSingles & Dating3 months ago
  • Not sure what to do anymore...?

    My ex-girlfriend and I split amicably a little less than a year ago. She REALLY does have a lot to sort out. I stress the word "really" because I know people will often use this as an excuse for breaking up. Fast forward to the present...and her situation has gotten worse/more complex. Again, I know this to be true. I miss her so much. I'm still very much in love with her. I told her that I would wait for her for as long as I could, so long as she wants to be with me. She wants to be with me... But her life is very complex right now. To put it in perspective, if we were a couple today, I don't know realistically how much time we would be spending together due to the demands in her life. As time passes, we speak less and less. My life hasn't been stagnant. I've been doing things with my life - traveling, bought a property, making moves at work, going out with friends, learning new things, etc...  I don't sit home and mope. But I do get sad at least once a day. Friends and family have encouraged me to see other people. I've tried... I mean REALLY tried. But no one really seems to do it for me. And I've made a firm decision not to get involved with anyone unless she makes me forget about my ex or completely blows her out the water. This hasn't happened. I'm getting so depressed...and quarantine is making it significantly worse. I am not reaching out to my ex because I don't want to put pressure on her. But, if I can be honest, I feel destroyed on the inside. What do I do?

    5 AnswersSingles & Dating4 months ago
  • Ladies... Please tell me if I should wait for her.?

    Back in February, I started dating someone. I've been divorced 4 years. She had been separated for a few months. We have liked each other since we were kids, but it just never happened. So as you might imagine, we fell in love QUICKLY. It surpassed our expectations. The kids met only because our opportunities to see each other were limited. My daughter was 9. Her daughter was 4. We all got along very well. And for the first time since my divorce, I really thought I'd marry again. (Trust me, I've been dead set against it since my divorce).

    My girlfriend's soon to be ex-husband figured out that she had been seeing someone. He made her life difficult... Planting things in their daughter's head.

    Next thing you know, she calls me and says she's in love with me but she can't do this right now. She says I'm everything she ever wanted in a man. That she cannot picture herself with anyone but me.

    And that she's so sorry, but it's just not the right time. I offered to wait... She told me it was my decision. That she feels horrible asking me to wait because she doesn't know how much time this will take. Not only does she have to complete the proceedings, but her daughter is also not adjusting well to the divorce.

    Now, I know we did not make a wise decision by getting involved with each other. But here we are.

    I love her. I miss her so much that I'm in pain. We talk here and there, not often. I don't want to overwhelm her. Do I wait? Am I wasting my time?

    3 AnswersMarriage & Divorce1 year ago
  • To move in with her and her kids or not?

    I was married for 10 years. In the course of the marriage, my sister in law died. My wife, at the time, and I took in my sister in law's twins. We have 1 biological child. One day, she decides she's not in love anymore. In a nutshell says, "I don't love you. You go. I'll keep the house. And the car. And our daughter. But you go live with the twins." As you might imagine, that changed my perspective on marriage.

    I was dating someone for three years. She and I had an AMAZING relationship. Talk about falling for each other. The trouble was...her kids and I didn't exactly get along. The personalities didn't mesh. And I didn't care for how they treated their mother. The older one basically had the run of the place. The younger one had severe emotional issues. Now that's not exactly...reciprocal. She got along with my daughter and the twins just fine.

    In addition to this...the kids were a constant reminder as to what my life would look like should we move in together...which is what she wanted ultimately. It felt like too much. To take on TWO MORE kids that are not mine, biologically? Truth be told, it got me very upset just thinking about it. Did I mention their dad was a crackhead?

    I didn't know what else to do. Time was passing...the relationship was getting deeper...I had no issue being exclusive with her. But I didn't want to live with them. It was a bone of contention. So I broke it off. I love her... I don't know if I did the right thing.

    7 AnswersSingles & Dating3 years ago
  • How Do You Use a Patent?

    I'm really new at this. I'm in the process of obtaining a patent for an invention. I'd rather not say what the invention is. Anywho, once I get it, how do I work this thing? If I want to sell the idea, who in retail circuits do I contact? If I wanted to sell to K-Mart of Target or whomever, what is the title of the person I should seek?

    1 AnswerOther - Business & Finance1 decade ago