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• ### What to do if your parents owe you money?

Over the last two months my dad has "borrowed" nearly £600 from me after I inherited some money. He would just expect me to buy things. Now I need some of the money back at least because he's draining my savings that I want for uni, and I'm spending almost as much on his expenses as on my own, maybe more, and it's sinking my pay check and my savings. I now have to sell some of my stuff to make up the shortfall.

So I've been gently asking whether or not he can repay some, maybe too often, but it is getting tight for me now. Then today my mum comes in to my room, guilting me to get groceries. When I mentioned that this arrangement is hurting me financially, she started saying that they're having money trouble too, and I shouldn't be asking dad to pay it back, that my money was gifted to him not lent.

So now I'm stuck. I need the money, but any time I mention it, there's this air that I should just write it all off, even direct mention of just that. What do I do?

• ### What are electric flux density, permittivity and dielectric constant re chemistry, limited to no physics knowledge?

As far as I understand (using a tank of water with an electric field being produced at the bottom of it for reference):

Electric flux is the amount of electricity field passing through a set surface perpendicular to the source of the electricity, so like measuring the electricity passing through a square described by the edges of my tank, 5cm off the bottom, measuring all the electricity that passes through it at one moment.

Electric flux density is the amount of electricity passing through that set surface then related to the area of the surface, standardising it to the amount of charge in the water per square metre (psm) of surface.

Permittivity is the resistance an electric field experiences in a dielectric medium, which insulates but can polarise its molecules (how does that mean it can store the electricity btw?), measured as the electric flux density per unit charge. So it's the resistance the water exerts on the electric field, measured by the amount of electricity passing through the square, psm, relative to the charge of a litre of water per se.

Dielectric constant is the permittivity of the water in relation to the permittivity of a vacuum, high meaning closer to conductive, low meaning more storage.

Questions:

Are those definitions right? (Tweak as appropriate, and please use my eg!)

What does "per unit charge" mean here?

Can you simply explain permittivity?

• ### Left shoulder weird shifting during workout?

I was doing these two exercises, one where you hold your arms out in front of you, but forearms at 90 degrees pointing up and you squeeze in, then another where you hold handles and push to lift a weight (names unknown). Throughout both exercises, it felt like the top of my arm in the shoulder joint was shifting between two points, like the bone was hopping around in the joint. No pain, but I could hear small sounds, almost like a click. What is it and should I be worried?

1 AnswerOther - Sports6 years ago
• ### Hip pain in an obese teenager, what to do?

Now obviously "lose weight" is up there at the top of the list, and I am working on it, but I need a short term solution.

The reason I mention that I'm obese (5'11", 274lbs-down from 293-, female) is that in two days, I have two miles to walk, I know its not a huge amount, but when you have a part of your leg feeling like its being stabbed with every step, that's an issue, so I need to be able to walk for then.

To explain the pain, yesterday I had a lot of pain in my hip when walking around normally for about a half hour before bed, but I went to bed, woke up and it was just a bit stiff. So I've been walking around normally today, walking to the shop, then walked to the gym and got on the elliptical. Two minutes in, I felt a stab in my hip, so much worse than last night. I kept going for about 8 minutes until the pain became unbearable, I was crying. I tried to do some arm exercises, but even sitting hurt because I was moving around. I asked my dad to get me in the car, and he has a low slung Audi, and sitting down and then subsequently getting up were excruciating. Even now, just sitting down, my hip is throbbing, achy and warm, and my whole leg feels really heavy.

I also have an exam to revise for, so I can't lay about in bed all day, so how can I make sure my hip is healed? I also have ehlers danlos syndrome, joint hypermobility type, which is probably the cause, plus fat. So what advice would you give?

4 AnswersPain & Pain Management6 years ago
• ### Should I further investigate the possibility of a ADHD diagnosis?

Now, as a precursor, I know that online quizzes aren't official diagnoses and do not mean that I have a disorder, that's obvious. What I want to know is whether the results of an online quiz should warrant further investigation.

So my brother has ADHD, diagnosed when he was really young, was on meds for years, now off them, but still symptomatic, if you can call it that. It was mentioned recently that ADHD is highly genetic, and I thought I'd look into that. I then went and completed this test-> http://www.addadult.com/getting-help/for-you/onlin...

My results were 9/9 for the first section and 8/9 for the second, and the site says "If you have a score of 6 or more for Part A or B, then your symptoms are highly consistent with a diagnosis of ADHD and further investigation is warranted."

But if I were diagnosed with ADHD, what would that do? Would there be anything to help? I don't want drugs or anything, as I have exams and I don't want anything that may mess my brain up before exams, as I need as close to full marks as possible, Would there be any benefit to a diagnosis, assuming I had ADHD, or would it just be "Yep, you've got ADHD, join the club."

So what do you think? Anyone have experience or an informed opinion on the matter? I'm 17 and female by the way.

• ### Is there a natural way to lift my boobs as I lose weight?

Warning, there is a graphic description to follow.

So I'm 17 and have been overweight most of my life. I've begun to lost weight now, but I want my boobs to look like boobs.

Basically, the shape of the boob is like if you cut a leaf in half along the widest part, but 3d. The areola is absolutely huge, and the nipples point straight down. The boobs just sit flat against my belly when not in a bra. I would like normal perky boobs, so I was wondering if there's something I can do to make nice shaped boobs as I lose weight? I want nice, round and pert boobs, hopefully about the same size as they are now. Suggestions, or will I need surgery when I'm done losing weight?

• ### What is a "vanilla" DVD?

I was reading about a DVD release, and it said that the DVD was released as a "vanilla" DVD. What does that mean?

2 AnswersOther - Television6 years ago

Problem is that I have IBS, so I can't eat wholegrain bread, but white is just too processed and gives me indigestion. I need good cheap substitutes, like if I have soft boiled egg, what can I have with it instead of bread?

Here's the main points where I need the bread cut from my diet:

-Eggs and soldiers

-Sandwiches/ packed lunches (low prep please!)

-Toast as a snack

Also, any suggestions for reducing pasta intake/ rice? I'm not looking to eliminate carbs, just get better quality carbs that fit my diet restrictions. In case it comes up, I can't eat beans or pulses too often, like maybe once or twice a week.

Any help would be great thanks!

5 AnswersDiet & Fitness6 years ago
• ### I know what I have to do to lose weight, help me change up my exercise regimen?

I have no idea what i weigh right now, but about 4 weeks ago I weighed 293. I am 5'11", F, 17, and until 2 weeks ago I was going to the gym average of about 3 times a week, an hour each visit, mix of strength and cardio. But then I got a little scare when one day I came back from the gym, feeling EXTREMELY dizzy, threw up and was then completely lethargic and tired. This was a perfectly normal workout other than that.

So I've been thinking about my exercise history. Before about 2 years ago, I was completely sedentary, but then I was fed up of being a 15 year old being mistaken for 25-30!

I started with Zumba once a week, and really got a kick out of it. But then I quit on that. I still had it in my head that I wasn't good at exercise, that I wouldn't fit in at a gym, or something would go wrong. So I joined "Gymophobics", basically the equivalent of something like Curves or Planet Fitness. It was expensive, and really not worth it. I was doing 30 mins 5 times a week, and they were tellng me I was "overtraining". Yep, that was useless.

So I joined the gym I've been training at since October last year and I haven't looked back. But I never stick to any exercise, I need variation and fun, I need to do something different, change it up. Plus I don't have that much money and knee problems (exacerbated by weight, but also hereditary), but to keep my motivation, I need to vary my exercises.

Suggestions? It needs to be low impact, doctor's orders.

14 AnswersDiet & Fitness6 years ago
• ### 17 yrs old, need a job, decent CV, how do I get one?

Ok, so here's the highlights of my CV:

-13 GCSEs, grades were 4 A*, 6 A, 3 B.

- Currently studying AS, so no grades there yet!

- About 7 months charity shop work, including tagging, restocking, till work, customer facing and displays.

- NCS summer project, involves 1 week adventure camp, 1 week prep, 1 week charity work.

-Lead a sports group for 6 weeks.

- Currently mentoring for GCSE maths (I got A* in that)

- Worked as a carer for 10 months, contract ended.

And I've applied for more than 30 jobs recently, not even a single interview. I need the money to help support my family, and I seem unable to land a job. I've been told that I'm great at interview, it just seems that even with all this on my CV (17 yo by the way) I can't even get an interview.

What's out of place here? How can I get the interview and then the job that I need? My family are in a tight financial pinch, and I need to earn the money.

Before anyone suggests it, we already claim all possible benefits, my mum can't work (disabled), my sister's too young and my brother is well under-qualified and doesn't contribute to the household through his job-seeker's (and my dad says that's his right), plus my dad working three/four jobs by himself.

So it all comes down to me. I need this job, how do I land it?

3 AnswersOther - Careers & Employment6 years ago
• ### Is this reaction to exercise a problem?

Well, I've been going to the gym for a few months, and this is the second time I've had a reaction like this, including a "feeling" before going in.

Before- felt lethargic, didn't want to exercise

During- still lethargic, cold and then hot, slightly nauseous.

After- Tired (usually feel energised) hungry sleepy, limbs feel heavy, no pain

I wondered if this was anything to worry about, or if there;s something I'm missing, a way to avoid all this.

1 AnswerDiet & Fitness6 years ago
• ### My laptop's screen display is screwed and Windows troubleshoot hasn't helped. What do I do?

It's really weird; I was surfing the internet, my cat walked over the keyboard and then suddenly the screen went really weird. The colours are kind of messed up and appear in bands. Also, sometimes words blur a bit, but not always, and the screen flickers ever so slightly. And I've gone through the entire troubleshooting thing from Windows, and nothing has helped.

Any suggestions? What might have happened? Its not resolution or brightness, I have checked that. Its a Dell Latitude D620.

4 AnswersLaptops & Notebooks7 years ago
• ### Should I see a doctor?

Quick version of events, because who reads?

Me, gym goer, been going 3-4 times weekly, min 1 hour every time, 4 months.

17, F, 5'11", 292lbs

Go to gym, walking on treadmill because Ehler's Danlos (see http://www.nhs.uk/conditions/ehlers-danlos-syndrom... look at hypermobility) to warm up.

Work out:

leg press (80kg, 20 full, 20 top half 20 bottom half x2)

squats (40kg, 2 sets of 10)

deadlift (2 sets of 20 on 30 kg, 1 set 10 on 45 kg)

calf rises (all at 30kg, feet parallel, 30 reps, feet turned out, 30, feet turned in, 30)

leg extensions (15kg, 3 sets 10 reps)

tricep curls (3 sets, 10 reps, 20 kg)

Upright rowing (2 sets, 10 reps, 1st set 20kg, 2nd set 15kg)

Get home, just standing. Right trainer feels too tight. Lean on right foot, getting sharp shooting pains in foot, feels like its along the bone. Do RICE.

Thursday:

Go to college, borrow crutch as walking stick, (used to belong to mum), stretch bandage around foot/ankle.

Dad drives me in (not usual; 78 mile round trip)

Foot throbs all day, ankle too.

Repeat RICE at home.

Friday (today):

Wake up, foot and ankle hurt more than ever. Decide I need to rest it, must have been yesterday.

When showering, dad says I should leave bandage off- in his opinion (based on 1st aid course 20 years ago) its just a nerve pinch. He does not understand the pain. Foot feels tingly and a bit numb.

Have left bandage off. Hurts even worse than this morning.

So do I go to the doctor's (would have to be out of hours service, as otherwise I wait until monday) or am I just a sissy who needs to bear it?

2 AnswersPain & Pain Management7 years ago
• ### What should I do? Should I see a doctor?

Okay, so this happened on Wednesday. I'd been to college, come back and gone to the gym (if it helps at all, I am big, just got under 300lbs, 17, F, 5'11", so when I say "big" think "OMG, its an obese whale waddling in!")

Now I also must explain I have Ehler's Danlos syndrome, hypermobility type (see here for more info: http://www.nhs.uk/conditions/ehlers-danl... so I'm always acutely aware of any pain arising from the exercise I'm doing.

I've been going to the gym for about 4 months now, 3-4 days a week, at least an hour each time, other than three weeks at christmas when I was abroad, so I can do a lot of things.

I did 10 minutes on treadmill at 5km/h (pitifully slow, yes, but think of hugeness and super stretchy joints prone to injury under high stress; I'm under strict doctor's orders; no running) then did weights. Leg press on 80kg, then tricep curls on 20kg (if I recall right), and upright rowing on 15kg. Then squats with 40kg (don't judge pathetic-ness please!) and leg extensions on 15kg. Then was dragged out of there by fed up dad, who informed me I had dinner to cook.

So I'm home cooking dinner, just standing there, and my right trainer feels tight. They're a little loose usually, so I was interested, but not too concerned. But then I start leaning on my right leg a bit. There's a shooting stabbing pain across the top of my right foot, almost like a line of pain from my ankle to the outer edge of my foot. I immediately went to sit down, and pulled my shoe off. Suddenly, the pain got worse and was affecting part of my ankle too.

Now I know my soft tissue injury treatments back to front inside out (I've damaged my wrists, shoulders and every joint in my leg because of the Ehlers Danlos) Rest, Ice, Compression, Elevation. So my did finishes off dinner and I wrap a good ole stretch bandage round my foot. My toes feel a bit tingly and very cold, but I get cold limbs anyway, so might be coincidence. I then put my foot up, get a bag of frozen peas and settle in.

I have an event at the SU at college, so I have to go in. I nick a crutch to use as a walking stick (hey, in a family where 4/5 have Ehlers Danlos, you end up with enough injuries to keep your own set of crutches around) and hobble around college. My dad drives me in, as its a two hour commute otherwise with about a mile to walk all told, each way, so two miles.

It's a HORRENDOUS day with my foot/ankle throbbing all day. But I manage.

Today, with nothing particular to get back for, I decide to stay home and rest. When I go to take a shower and hence take the bandage off, my dad tells me to leave it off, as he says I "just have a pinched nerve; that's why it hurts and why your toes are tingly. Pinched nerve." I try not to punch him, as he's generally nice, but just think one first aid course 20 years ago basically qualifies him to dish out medical advice.

So I am sat here with the bandage off, my ankle is throbbing and swollen my toes are still tingly and there's a dull ache spreading over my foot.

I don't want to go to a doctor, have him tell me its what I think it is, suck it pussy, but I don't want to injure myself. And I'm not sure how else to get advice as to when to go back to the gym. Seems like I only get to go once this week, which p****s me off no end.

And I have an eight hour shift at a charity shop tomorrow, mostly standing. What do I do, because even if I should see the doctor, earliest I could would be Monday!

1 AnswerPain & Pain Management7 years ago
• ### My ankle and foot hurt after unknown gym activity. Should I see a doctor?

Okay, so this happened on Wednesday. I'd been to college, come back and gone to the gym (if it helps at all, I am big, just got under 300lbs, 17, F, 5'11", so when I say "big" think "OMG, its an obese whale waddling in!")

Now I also must explain I have Ehler's Danlos syndrome, hypermobility type (see here for more info: http://www.nhs.uk/conditions/ehlers-danlos-syndrom... so I'm always acutely aware of any pain arising from the exercise I'm doing.

I've been going to the gym for about 4 months now, 3-4 days a week, at least an hour each time, other than three weeks at christmas when I was abroad, so I can do a lot of things.

I did 10 minutes on treadmill at 5km/h (pitifully slow, yes, but think of hugeness and super stretchy joints prone to injury under high stress; I'm under strict doctor's orders; no running) then did weights. Leg press on 80kg, then tricep curls on 20kg (if I recall right), and upright rowing on 15kg. Then squats with 40kg (don't judge pathetic-ness please!) and leg extensions on 15kg. Then was dragged out of there by fed up dad, who informed me I had dinner to cook.

So I'm home cooking dinner, just standing there, and my right trainer feels tight. They're a little loose usually, so I was interested, but not too concerned. But then I start leaning on my right leg a bit. There's a shooting stabbing pain across the top of my right foot, almost like a line of pain from my ankle to the outer edge of my foot. I immediately went to sit down, and pulled my shoe off. Suddenly, the pain got worse and was affecting part of my ankle too.

Now I know my soft tissue injury treatments back to front inside out (I've damaged my wrists, shoulders and every joint in my leg because of the Ehlers Danlos) Rest, Ice, Compression, Elevation. So my did finishes off dinner and I wrap a good ole stretch bandage round my foot. My toes feel a bit tingly and very cold, but I get cold limbs anyway, so might be coincidence. I then put my foot up, get a bag of frozen peas and settle in.

I have an event at the SU at college, so I have to go in. I nick a crutch to use as a walking stick (hey, in a family where 4/5 have Ehlers Danlos, you end up with enough injuries to keep your own set of crutches around) and hobble around college. My dad drives me in, as its a two hour commute otherwise with about a mile to walk all told, each way, so two miles.

It's a HORRENDOUS day with my foot/ankle throbbing all day. But I manage.

Today, with nothing particular to get back for, I decide to stay home and rest. When I go to take a shower and hence take the bandage off, my dad tells me to leave it off, as he says I "just have a pinched nerve; that's why it hurts and why your toes are tingly. Pinched nerve." I try not to punch him, as he's generally nice, but just think one first aid course 20 years ago basically qualifies him to dish out medical advice.

So I am sat here with the bandage off, my ankle is throbbing and swollen my toes are still tingly and there's a dull ache spreading over my foot.

I don't want to go to a doctor, have him tell me its what I think it is, suck it pussy, but I don't want to injure myself. And I'm not sure how else to get advice as to when to go back to the gym. Seems like I only get to go once this week, which p****s me off no end.

And I have an eight hour shift at a charity shop tomorrow, mostly standing. What do I do, because even if I should see the doctor, earliest I could would be Monday!

• ### How to get rid of catarrh?

Basically, I've had a cold for about 3 weeks (must have been a few colds in a row), and now most symptoms are gone. However, catarrh is building up at the back of my throat. I was coughing and thought that I would cough it up eventually, ended up heaving before any catarrh moved.I can't inhale steam, because it seems to flare up my sinitus, in the end making the mucus worse.

So I need to know how I loosen the catarrh now. Its making me ill, and I can hardly eat because every time I swallow, its activating the gag reflex. I need it gone now.

I have cough syrup, stepsils, proctors throat lozenges, vaporub and tea at my disposal, as well as basics. What can I do?

• ### How do I force my freakish obese body to comply with my diet?

Basically, I am a pig. I workout for an hour and a half 4 to 5 days a week. And yet I'm not losing a pound. Why? because I am a useless disgusting animal without an ounce of self control.I ate 4 mince pies in a day. Why? No self control. I ate a burger, chips and milkshake, large. No self control. I had a frijj milkshake. No ******* self control.

So I need a way of forcing myself to lose as much weight as possible. Because I weigh 300lbs. I am a disgusting example of pure gluttony and evil. I am an animal, with no concept of control.

So how do I force myself to stick to this plan:

Breakfast: Smoothie

Lunch: Chicken rice and veg with asian sauce

Dinner: 1/4 portion of whatever is eaten at home.

Snacks- apples or veg.

Drinks; water and occasional coffee.

I don't want diet tips. I want to know how I FORCE myself to stick to this plan?

3 AnswersDiet & Fitness7 years ago
• ### I am an obese teen, going to two gyms, but my lack of control stops me losing weight. How do I force myself?

Basically, I am a pig. I workout for an hour and a half 4 to 5 days a week. And yet I'm not losing a pound. Why? because I am a useless disgusting animal without an ounce of self control.I ate 4 mince pies in a day. Why? No self control. I ate a burger, chips and milkshake, large. No self control. I had a frijj milkshake. No ******* self control.

So I need a way of forcing myself to lose as much weight as possible. Because I weigh 300lbs. I am a disgusting example of pure gluttony and evil. I am an animal, with no concept of control.

So how do I force myself to stick to this plan:

Breakfast: Smoothie

Lunch: Chicken rice and veg with asian sauce

Dinner: 1/4 portion of whatever is eaten at home.

Snacks- apples or veg.

Drinks; water and occasional coffee.

Any modifications? And how do I FORCE myself to stick to it?

3 AnswersDiet & Fitness7 years ago
• ### How to lose more weight on top of diet and exercise?

Okay, so here's my diet and exercise, which I will start following from tomorrow.

5 days a week, 30 mins on an elliptical, 20 mins walking at 5.0-5.5 kmh dependant on incline and how my knees feel (I have inherited bad knees, add 150lbs of flab and my knees are terrible despite being 17). Also 5 times a week, 30 mins of resistance/toning. (Already been following this for 1 week)

Diet, 1400 calories, balanced with carbs (no white carbs whenever possible), proteins (mostly chicken or fish), LOTS of vegetables and some fruit.

I have lost 0.5kg this week with the exercise, but I'd like to know how to lose more before christmas. I want to be healthy and all that, but how do I optimise my weight loss? Is there any sort of food that I can eat that speeds weight loss? What should I do?

7 AnswersDiet & Fitness7 years ago
• ### I've agreed to go skating tomorrow night, bad knees and first time, how to prevent injury?

By "bad knees", I mean that I have ehler's danlos syndrome which leads to loose connective tissue in my knee joints, which causes them to rub on the cartilage, which causes pain. How do I start ice skating without smacking down on my knees too hard or twisting my joints? Its also the first time I've ever skated, so...

And I've already agreed to it, so how do I make the best of this?