A little background we were going for a walk and my “friend” (ex bf) said the word poop in a way like my grandmother used to say it, I think it’s a pa Dutch accent. It gave me a gross bothered feeling, for some reason I hated that she said it it felt weird, could also be related to bad memories. I said ew dont say that like that (I did not think I snapped) he repeated it a few times and then was like I should have just gone somewhere else. I asked if he wanted to leave so we did. In the car he says always a pleasure to be around. Dumbfounded I’m like yea you are. Mature of us right... he also commented about it being a trigger being a jerk like oh you don’t have any triggers do you. Wtf. he dropped me off at home I said have fun and went inside. Then these texts transpired.
I am so confused by this kind of behavior. It’s very repetitive (part of the reason of being an ex) I always feel like I’m crazy. Like was I wrong to say don’t say that? I have an explanation, I said my grandmother used to say it and it felt funny. And I felt like it was super disrespectful to go on about it. And then it seems like some sort of behavior to send the I really do hope you enjoy your evening. I thought maybe that was gaslighting but from reading through other questions it doesn’t seem like it. How do normal people handle situations like this? And what is this considered?3 AnswersPsychology2 months ago