• How do I get her to stop smoking?

    I'm thirteen, my mum has smoked since before I was born. She doesn't bother to go outside or to even open a window when she's smoking and I'm in the same room. I have asthma, its never been very bad but I think the smoke is starting to mess with it, its harder to breath and when she smoking near me... show more
    I'm thirteen, my mum has smoked since before I was born. She doesn't bother to go outside or to even open a window when she's smoking and I'm in the same room. I have asthma, its never been very bad but I think the smoke is starting to mess with it, its harder to breath and when she smoking near me it hurts. She's tried to stop before but failed. Ever since I was little I told her it was bad for me and to at least not smoke when I'm in the room, I'm glad she can't smoke in the car with me anymore though, that was the worse. Doesn't she even care about me? I guess I could just stay in my room all day instead of coming downstairs though, that would solve the problem I guess.
    8 answers · 11 hours ago
  • Should i kill myself because i have no car?

    Not having a car makes so depressed. I hate my family and I'm so tired of being around them "all the time". Not having a car just forces me to not be independent or have any freedom. I just feel so jealous because everyone seems to have a car besides me I still have to go places with my mom. It also... show more
    Not having a car makes so depressed. I hate my family and I'm so tired of being around them "all the time". Not having a car just forces me to not be independent or have any freedom. I just feel so jealous because everyone seems to have a car besides me I still have to go places with my mom. It also makes me put things on hold like having a social life and going to school. Where I live everything is so far away even walking to the bus stop takes like an hour to get there. I just feel so angry like I just wanna die since I hate my stressful situation so much. I just got my licence but I'm not spoiled and dident have a family who rushed and brought me a car it's something I have to wait and get myself but who knows when that will be. I just feel so angry not having a car just makes me hate life so much..I kind of have anixity and having a car would help but I have to be watched all the time and have not space or privacy taking the bus all the time I hate it so much..I just feel like committing suicide..is this a good reason? I have no one to help me or take me anywhere..I have to struggle I hate my life so much
    6 answers · 9 hours ago
  • What happened to my daughter?

    My daughter is 14, and she's been like this since about 13. She's always negative, claims that she hates everyone and that no one understands her. She used to enjoy wearing colorful clothes that I picked out for her, but now all she wears is black. I have nothing against the color but it's all she wears... show more
    My daughter is 14, and she's been like this since about 13. She's always negative, claims that she hates everyone and that no one understands her. She used to enjoy wearing colorful clothes that I picked out for her, but now all she wears is black. I have nothing against the color but it's all she wears now. She's distant from her friends, and she says that she feels like they hate her and that her existiance hurts them. That's a bit dramatic, wouldn't you agree? She doesn't spend time with me that much either. All she does is stay in her room all day listening to music. One day I took her swimming and I had to confront her because I've discovered that she had several scars along her arms and thighs. I know that it must be selfharm because the scars were too perfectly straight to be a cat or some kind of accident. She broke down crying saying that I don't understand. What is going on with my daughter??
    10 answers · 8 hours ago
  • I Need Help Dealing With My Mom!!!!?

    So I'm 17 and I have been on probation for 8 months already and I live at home with my mom and her brother (my uncle).My mom says I am very controlling and act like the house is mine because I will shut all the windows in the house if it's too hot outside, I will lay on the couch and my mom says I act like... show more
    So I'm 17 and I have been on probation for 8 months already and I live at home with my mom and her brother (my uncle).My mom says I am very controlling and act like the house is mine because I will shut all the windows in the house if it's too hot outside, I will lay on the couch and my mom says I act like its my living room and that's why no one ever wants to be in the living room with me. She also says I clean too much and make guests uncomfortable when they are at our house because my face looks angry. My mom says once I turn 18 she is kicking me out and I should make other arrangements. I really don't want this kind of relationship with my mom because I love her and I don't want her to hate me because of certain things I do. Please help I don't want my mom to despise me for the rest of my life..
    9 answers · 10 hours ago
  • I don’t see my dad as my ‘dad’?

    Is this weird? Like I can’t call him dad because I just don’t feel like he is. He’s done so much for me but I just don’t feel it. He’s commented on this before and I couldn’t tell him it’s because I don’t think of him as my dad. Idk how to explain it, I don’t have a good relationship with either of my parents but... show more
    Is this weird? Like I can’t call him dad because I just don’t feel like he is. He’s done so much for me but I just don’t feel it. He’s commented on this before and I couldn’t tell him it’s because I don’t think of him as my dad. Idk how to explain it, I don’t have a good relationship with either of my parents but ours is worse than me and my moms. I just don’t consider him as a father figure, and I don’t know why. Is this bad?
    6 answers · 1 hour ago
  • Are my parents too strict?

    I m 23 years old and my parents still want me to be home at a certain time (3am). I know it s not an early curfew but I m an adult with a full time job. I ve also had a rough couple of years going through school, relationships, and hanging out with the wrong people. Recently my parents went through my purse without... show more
    I m 23 years old and my parents still want me to be home at a certain time (3am). I know it s not an early curfew but I m an adult with a full time job. I ve also had a rough couple of years going through school, relationships, and hanging out with the wrong people. Recently my parents went through my purse without me knowing and found something I shouldn t have had in the first place which I m not proud of but its something I want to leave in the past and I ve been trying to be more responsible and calm down on the partying. My parents are very religious, they won t even let me drink they think even a glass of wine will make me a bad person. Are my parents too strict?
    43 answers · 3 days ago
  • My parents won't let me go outside they say that it's "too dangerous" and no one my age should go out without an adult (I'm 14..)?

    they say it's because of a kid my age was killed.. but they were really far away from us.. if I ask my mom to go to the park ( which is a one minute walk from my house ) she will yell at me. I want more freedom but I don't know what to do..
    they say it's because of a kid my age was killed.. but they were really far away from us.. if I ask my mom to go to the park ( which is a one minute walk from my house ) she will yell at me. I want more freedom but I don't know what to do..
    30 answers · 3 days ago
  • How do I deal with my dad trying to chat up other women over Facebook?

    Just a bit of background to show you what I m going through: -My mom and dad are married -My dad has lost his job last year and has been at home ever since -My mom has been sacrificing so much and trying to pay his debt. -I really love both of them and dint want anything to happen to them -My parents are old... show more
    Just a bit of background to show you what I m going through: -My mom and dad are married -My dad has lost his job last year and has been at home ever since -My mom has been sacrificing so much and trying to pay his debt. -I really love both of them and dint want anything to happen to them -My parents are old (Age 58 and 66) A couple of months ago my dad asked me to help him with something on his phone but when sorting the problem out I went into his Facebook messenger and saw he was sending message to the women and telling them that they look stunning and stuff. Most of them never replied but it still bothered me, I eventually forgot about it. I deleted some of the chats so that it wouldn t get further. I don t think he even realised that they stop replying because it so freaking weird and it makes him look dumb. Today the same situation happened and I saw he has been doing the same crap. And this really made me angry and I don t know what to do. My dad and I don t have the best relationship, we aren t the ones who would speak about sensitive topics or get into emotional issues. This whole thing gets to me so much because I m the only one who knows about it and my mother does so freaking much for him and it s like he has no shame. I really need help with this, I don t know how to confront him about it.
    6 answers · 21 hours ago
  • My father started crying when I said that i have a boyfriend?

    Best answer: I'm not sure if it was happiness (for you) or sadness (that the process of one day losing his little girl has begun). Some father's get sentimental. I hope this guy is a strong guy. A strong person has good character (honesty, integrity, trustworthiness), displays a positive attitude (cheerful, caring,... show more
    Best answer: I'm not sure if it was happiness (for you) or sadness (that the process of one day losing his little girl has begun). Some father's get sentimental.

    I hope this guy is a strong guy. A strong person has good character (honesty, integrity, trustworthiness), displays a positive attitude (cheerful, caring, friendly, forgiving, helpful, and respectful), fulfills their responsibilities (for handling pains in a positive way, for always trying to make a good choice, for taking care of themselves, for serving others), gives their best effort, and demonstrates self-control (of their body, anger, tongue and money). A strong person isn't overly concerned with what weak mean people say, do, or think.

    My suggestion is that you put in the effort necessary to become a strong person (if you’re not already), break up with this guy in a kind way unless he’s a strong person, and eventually look for this type of guy (otherwise you are setting yourself up for a broken heart). Unfortunately this type of man is difficult to find – but save yourself the heartache and don’t settle for less.

    (Please remember that you eventually want a 50 or 60 year marriage - not a 5 or 10 year marriage.)

    Hope this helps!

    PS The best way to get to know a strong man without dating is to participate in the activities of a community service or a school organization.
    13 answers · 19 hours ago
  • Is it normal for toddlers to swear?

    I saw a little girl with an older teen at a barbecue event. The toddler wanted to go over to the other side of the park, but the older girl wanted to stay. The mom called out that she wanted her child to stay near her. This child just said, "f*ck you!!". She looks about 3-4. A few weeks later, I heard... show more
    I saw a little girl with an older teen at a barbecue event. The toddler wanted to go over to the other side of the park, but the older girl wanted to stay. The mom called out that she wanted her child to stay near her. This child just said, "f*ck you!!". She looks about 3-4. A few weeks later, I heard ANOTHER child swear. The little boy was at a restaurant name-calling and shouting pretty explicit words (not the worst, but very bad in the case of a kid his age). They probably don't even know what these words really mean, but is it the "norm"?
    10 answers · 11 hours ago
  • Unwanted comments about my father's terminal illness?

    My father was diagnosed with terminal pancreatic cancer and is very sick from chemo at the moment. I know I might be being over sensitive but im finding everyone's comments very inconsiderate and annoying. My cousin (who is well aware of my father's illness) asked me 'how are you? What have you been up... show more
    My father was diagnosed with terminal pancreatic cancer and is very sick from chemo at the moment. I know I might be being over sensitive but im finding everyone's comments very inconsiderate and annoying. My cousin (who is well aware of my father's illness) asked me 'how are you? What have you been up to?' when I bumped into her the other day, which I found extremely rude. She was acting like i am not going through the situation!! My other cousin keeps sending me 'herbal cancer remedies' which is so rude. Since when did she become a cancer expert. Everyone is irritating me. I am not sure if they mean to upset me. I remember not knowing what to say when my best friends dad was dying so I kind of understand. But it so hard when the shoe is on the other foot. How do you deal with these comments
    38 answers · 5 days ago
  • 10 year old brother always wants to be alone?

    Hey guys my 10 year old little brother recently has wanted to be alone, this has been going on for the last month and a half, I hear him crying a lot and I try to comfort him but his door is locked and won't talk when I ask him what's wrong, I'm very concerned about him, I just want to hold him so bad... show more
    Hey guys my 10 year old little brother recently has wanted to be alone, this has been going on for the last month and a half, I hear him crying a lot and I try to comfort him but his door is locked and won't talk when I ask him what's wrong, I'm very concerned about him, I just want to hold him so bad because he's been isolating himself and crying, and cries himself to sleep, and he will wake up at like 1 in the morning and cry, my parents homeschooled him, because that's all he did in school was want to be alone and cry. Poor baby :( I have no clue how to make my baby brother happy again :( please help and thank you for answering
    10 answers · 18 hours ago
  • Family or Myself?

    So I'm 22, last september my mother died and left me with a home that i cant really afford to keep. Basically she had bought it from her mom and its a family home, been in the family for 50yrs. My nanny lived with us but shes now moving out. Anyways, i have alot of bad memories of the house, i found my mom in... show more
    So I'm 22, last september my mother died and left me with a home that i cant really afford to keep. Basically she had bought it from her mom and its a family home, been in the family for 50yrs. My nanny lived with us but shes now moving out. Anyways, i have alot of bad memories of the house, i found my mom in the bathroom the day she died and so i dont want to live here. The house is valued at £110,000, however my aunts would like it to stay in the family but they can only offer £70,000. Now with out doubt that is alot of money for a person at my age. But this property is the only thing i have, the money would set me up for my future. I personally feel as though i should in this case look out for myself and secure my future. Because I looked after my mom for 10yrs and in all honesty im tired and want a break. I discussed this with my aunt today, but instead of having a nice discussion she got angry. She has threatened to speak to a lawyer and has also said that the entire family will abandon me if i choose to sell the house outside the family. Now, I would have been ok with selling the house within the family if she had of talked to me reasonably but instead she blackmailed me basically which was a shock to be honest. Now instead of simply looking at the situation as £40,000 extra in my future funds bank or make the family happy i also have to take into account the fact that i've been made out to be the bad guy, when i never asked to be put into this position.
    10 answers · 18 hours ago
  • Is this Dad being taken advantage of?

    My boyfriend of six years has a 22 year old son at home. i maintain my own home. My boyfriend is always talking about preparing his son to leave home. I recently found out (accidentally) that the 22 year olds best friend is moving into the house with them. And not only that, but the friends pregnant girlfriend.... show more
    My boyfriend of six years has a 22 year old son at home. i maintain my own home. My boyfriend is always talking about preparing his son to leave home. I recently found out (accidentally) that the 22 year olds best friend is moving into the house with them. And not only that, but the friends pregnant girlfriend. These kids have jobs and families and there's no reason for them to be crashing and eating at my boyfriends home. (he works till late in the evening). I have no rights or say, but I don't at all like how this is going down.
    12 answers · 2 days ago
  • My mom wants me to take care of her kids an not have a life?

    Best answer: I kind of agree with these other answers, but there may be a better way to simplify this for you. The problem with answering this is we know almost nothing about your situation. For example, is your disability a "minor" thing like severe astigmatism, or are you almost legally blind"? We don't... show more
    Best answer: I kind of agree with these other answers, but there may be a better way to simplify this for you. The problem with answering this is we know almost nothing about your situation. For example, is your disability a "minor" thing like severe astigmatism, or are you almost legally blind"? We don't know if you live in a rural area where cars are almost mandatory or if it's a major metro area with lots of options to get around.

    The point of all this is I think you need to find an older, trustworthy adult who can serve as almost a "life coach" and help you sort this out. Older relatives are ideal, so think this through. What you want is someone to help you get out from under your mom, but develop your young adult coping skills at the same time. This includes setting realistic goals for yourself and also financial planning. If an older relative doesn't work, then think through your friends parents. Or a teacher or prof you got close to.

    You need this badly, because I'm sure you feel overwhelmed right now. This is understandable, but you owe it to yourself to start simplifying everything so you can escape. What you're trying to do is establish a healthy, balanced life, where you have fun with peers, you further your education, and you bring in some income . All of this will be easier than you think once the ball gets rolling. You just need some guidance on getting it started.
    9 answers · 18 hours ago