• Mom threatens to disown me and take my son.?

    I m currently separated from my husband of 11 years. We have a 9 year old son together. Since the beginning my mother has hated my husband. Actually she despises him. And vice versa. I admit I can see her point on more than one occasion. He has his faults but we all do. Anyway, I m living with my parents who I m... show more
    I m currently separated from my husband of 11 years. We have a 9 year old son together. Since the beginning my mother has hated my husband. Actually she despises him. And vice versa. I admit I can see her point on more than one occasion. He has his faults but we all do. Anyway, I m living with my parents who I m very close with. I was laid off from my job so until I get another job im staying with them and my son They have no problem with this but my mom told me if I decide to go back with my husband she is disowning me and getting custody of my son. I understand she wants the best for me but this seems a bit much. Thoughts and advice please
    59 answers · 1 week ago
  • Is this okay?

    I have four grandkids, three are under the age of 13 and my eldest is 18. I took them shopping today 'spoil' them today and I bought my three grandchildren some little treats but I let my oldest grandchild pay for her own things as I feel it teaches her responsibility. I do feel guilty as I spent money on... show more
    I have four grandkids, three are under the age of 13 and my eldest is 18. I took them shopping today 'spoil' them today and I bought my three grandchildren some little treats but I let my oldest grandchild pay for her own things as I feel it teaches her responsibility. I do feel guilty as I spent money on my three grandchildren and not my eldest, but do you think I did the right thing?
    54 answers · 2 weeks ago
  • My sister's boyfriend slapped her in front of me, but my sister thinks she deserves it and told me to stay out of it. What should I do?

    I'm her older brother, and super-protective. I'm 20, she's 18, still in high school. She has had a boyfriend for a year, he's a popular, good-looking guy on the school's soccer team. Yesterday they had a fight, and it was in front of me. I was at her bf's house as he got ready for his... show more
    I'm her older brother, and super-protective. I'm 20, she's 18, still in high school. She has had a boyfriend for a year, he's a popular, good-looking guy on the school's soccer team. Yesterday they had a fight, and it was in front of me. I was at her bf's house as he got ready for his team's final. My sister had been sulking because he'd bought her some gift she didn't like. Anyway, just as we were all getting ready to go, my sister said she would stay at home and watch TV. Her bf looked stunned and said no way. She said there was a TV program she wanted to watch, and she wouldn't go. After five minutes of her being stubborn, he slapped her across the face. It wasn't super-hard, but it was sharp and purposeful, and shut her up instantly. I tried to move in, and he said 'Unless you want one too, stay out of this." He looked angry, so I quietly sat down. My sister, clutching her face, apologised to him. And he gave her a kiss and they made up, and she agreed to go with him. I told her later she should leave him and she was angry with me, saying it was obviously her fault and the slap brought her to her senses, and she loved him 'more than before'. I would confront her boyfriend, but I'm scared he really will slap me and tell me to stay out of it. What should I do, she's an adult?
    43 answers · 1 week ago
  • My husband circumcised our son at home last night?

    I will be honest--our boy has never been happier. Why don't all parents get their boys cut for the better of man kind?
    I will be honest--our boy has never been happier. Why don't all parents get their boys cut for the better of man kind?
    33 answers · 1 week ago
  • My dad disowning me for going to flight school?

    I have a cultural dad who thinks piloting is for men, I'm an 18 year old girl I'm going to have to move out when i go to the flight school and he's saying if i move out he will disown me. I'm stuck I don't have a mum only a stepmum who also is very cultural i had a very hard bringing up with... show more
    I have a cultural dad who thinks piloting is for men, I'm an 18 year old girl I'm going to have to move out when i go to the flight school and he's saying if i move out he will disown me. I'm stuck I don't have a mum only a stepmum who also is very cultural i had a very hard bringing up with her. Don't know what to do?
    33 answers · 1 week ago
  • Question about homeless shelter?

    I'm 19, i don't get along with my family. And I don't want to keep putting them through pain. Should I find a shelter to stay at?
    I'm 19, i don't get along with my family. And I don't want to keep putting them through pain. Should I find a shelter to stay at?
    13 answers · 1 week ago
  • Relationship advice?

    I am 32 years old, and have been with my boyfriend for 13 years. I have 4 younger siblings, and my mom is a single mother. My mother doesn t work or drive, so growing up I was depended on a lot for transportation and financial needs. I was basically like a second mother growing up. Now that my sisters and brothers... show more
    I am 32 years old, and have been with my boyfriend for 13 years. I have 4 younger siblings, and my mom is a single mother. My mother doesn t work or drive, so growing up I was depended on a lot for transportation and financial needs. I was basically like a second mother growing up. Now that my sisters and brothers are all over 18 they still live with my mom, but contribute hardly anything to help out with the house. I am pretty much moved out, but still depended on a lot. I pay all thier utilities and a one car payment, plus my own stuff. Sometime my boyfriend gets upset that I don t come home after work. I ll go to my moms house to help run errands and stuff. However most weekends my boyfriend and I spend together. Sometimes I feel like I m being pulled in two different directions, and it s starting to break me down. Any advice????
    36 answers · 2 weeks ago
  • My mum grounded me for elbowing my sister in the chest. Did I deserve it?

    For the better part of half an hour my sister kept flicking me, pinching my skin, tickling me and pulling me. I tried to escape from her clutches several times, but it was extremely hard... almost impossible. When she was pinching me and pushing me around, I decided to take action. I elbowed her in the chest and... show more
    For the better part of half an hour my sister kept flicking me, pinching my skin, tickling me and pulling me. I tried to escape from her clutches several times, but it was extremely hard... almost impossible. When she was pinching me and pushing me around, I decided to take action. I elbowed her in the chest and she fell to the floor. I went upstairs and and I laughed. But a couple of minutes later, our mum came up and started shouting at me. She accused me of "resorting to violence" and she said "you're nothing but a bully". She said that my sister is the true victim in all of this and that I should be ashamed of myself for how I handled it. She said that if I don't apologise to her I will be grounded me. I refused to apologise to her because I believe she deserved she everything she got. My mum grounded me for 2 weeks and apparently I "deserved it". Did I deserve the grounding? Did I handle the situation the right way?
    18 answers · 1 week ago
  • Do I have a right to be angry?

    Best answer: In your place, I would be upset as well. But, your parents have the right to have you attend camps like this one, even though it is a religious themed camp. So, although you have the right to be upset, you might just as well accept that this is a done deal and try to make the best of the situation. By doing this,... show more
    Best answer: In your place, I would be upset as well. But, your parents have the right to have you attend camps like this one, even though it is a religious themed camp. So, although you have the right to be upset, you might just as well accept that this is a done deal and try to make the best of the situation. By doing this, your parents might be more inclined to let you do some other things that you want to do. While you are still under age, your parents do have the right to make decisions on your behalf and you are required to comply. Once you are of age and out on your own, you will be able to make your own decisions on all things. But, for now, you do have to accept the decisions that your parents make. Good luck!
    15 answers · 1 week ago
  • My mom always tells me not to let people see me without make up. Is is okay to go without make up?

    Best answer: Your mom seems to be insecure about her own appearance, so she wants to present a picture of herself which is not real. I feel sorry for her. Don't let her tell you that makeup is a must, regardless of how old you are. I am 82 and have never worn makeup, because I feel comfortable with how I look and I do... show more
    Best answer: Your mom seems to be insecure about her own appearance, so she wants to present a picture of herself which is not real. I feel sorry for her. Don't let her tell you that makeup is a must, regardless of how old you are. I am 82 and have never worn makeup, because I feel comfortable with how I look and I do not want to do anything to harm my skin.
    18 answers · 1 week ago
  • My mom got divorced and remarried. How long will it take to change my last name to her new husband's last name? He is now my dad?

    Best answer: You would need your biological father's permission to change your name unless you have been legally adopted. Otherwise you would need to wait until you are 18. A name change only takes a couple of weeks after you file for it in most places.
    Best answer: You would need your biological father's permission to change your name unless you have been legally adopted. Otherwise you would need to wait until you are 18. A name change only takes a couple of weeks after you file for it in most places.
    7 answers · 1 week ago
  • Need advice, stepdad has started to slap my butt.?

    I honestly don't know if this is counted as harassment, but the more I read about other girls experiences the more I began to worry about this. My stepfather has begun to slap my butt with whatever is in his hands and he always does it when my mom isn't around or not looking. He's made plenty of sexual... show more
    I honestly don't know if this is counted as harassment, but the more I read about other girls experiences the more I began to worry about this. My stepfather has begun to slap my butt with whatever is in his hands and he always does it when my mom isn't around or not looking. He's made plenty of sexual jokes around me in the past and talks about how big my butt is. My mom just laughs when she hears him say that because she thinks he's joking but she doesn't know about him touching me. Is it something to do something about? I'm starting to get scared and really, really uncomfortable.
    54 answers · 1 week ago
  • Why is my daughter like this?(moms)?

    Ok so when she was younger I suppose I did mistreat her badly. Cuz sometimes she would just disappoint me. I used to hit her and yell at her quite often, I'm not really like that anymore. Ever since, she's always preferred her dad. I thought she would grow out of that eventually but she never did. She's... show more
    Ok so when she was younger I suppose I did mistreat her badly. Cuz sometimes she would just disappoint me. I used to hit her and yell at her quite often, I'm not really like that anymore. Ever since, she's always preferred her dad. I thought she would grow out of that eventually but she never did. She's now 14. When she wants something she asks her dad to buy it, never asks me. He doesn't spoil her tho. When she outgrows clothes she asks him to take her shopping rather than me. I have bought her a few things, she seems happy but nothing much. When it's just me and her in the house she barely comes out of her room, only to eat and use the bathroom, barely talks with me. Her dad gets home from work and she comes out of her room and hugs him, but when I get home she just says "hi". I do admit I do get a little jealous at times cuz she always prefers him. The only thing she doesn't ask him is to buy her pads for her period, I'm assuming all she does is use toilet paper or ignore it. Cuz I've never seen any of my products 'disappear'. And I've told her she can use mine but she wont. I've asked her why she ignores me but she doesn't want to talk about it and leaves the room. My husband is a little upset with me for doing that to her before but I told him I don't do that anymore. I don't think she hates that much cuz she does smile at me, rarely tho..Why is she ignoring me so much tho? How do I get her to like me again? Thx
    35 answers · 1 week ago
  • How can I make my daughter start behaving like a normal teenager?

    I have a 14 year old daughter, and she is very strange. For starters, she is obsessed with Cher and Madonna. No, not Cher lloyed, Cher and in Sonny and Cher that MY mother used to listen to, and the same Madonna that everyone used to try to dress up like when I was a teen. She has naturally brown hair, and when she... show more
    I have a 14 year old daughter, and she is very strange. For starters, she is obsessed with Cher and Madonna. No, not Cher lloyed, Cher and in Sonny and Cher that MY mother used to listen to, and the same Madonna that everyone used to try to dress up like when I was a teen. She has naturally brown hair, and when she was 11, I let her get beautiful blonde highlights, but last year she decided she wanted 'Cher hair' and now has long, black hair. She never does anything with her friends, but perfers to talk to a bunch of Cher fans on Twitter, and Cher tweets them all and that is literally her world. Instead of wanting to stay here, in Canada and get a normal job, like all of her friends, she studies extra hard just so she can hopefully get into a university in California so she can try to become an actress and go to Uni there to be a lawyer if that doesn't work. Instead of wearing normal things like her friends, she wears high heels, leather and jeans. She is also a vegetarian, which I hate. Why can't she just eat meat like the rest of us? Please just tell me what I can do? She won't listen to me!
    14 answers · 1 week ago
  • Are we doing the right thing?

    We told my mother in law that she has till Sept 1st to move out of our house. Without ranting and creating a ton for you to read I'll just say that I respect her as my husband's mother but she does not respect me or her own son esp her grandkids. She tries to control everything from everything involving our... show more
    We told my mother in law that she has till Sept 1st to move out of our house. Without ranting and creating a ton for you to read I'll just say that I respect her as my husband's mother but she does not respect me or her own son esp her grandkids. She tries to control everything from everything involving our special needs boys (3 boys) she goes through our mail, phone, and any papers she can find just to nose in and run her mouth to those who gossip. She is living with us for free, doesn't do anything to help around here and is constantly arguing. When we said she has till Sept 1st the family is acting like we are the bad guy here. Which brings me to my question, are we doing the right thing by telling her she has to leave? we have had multiple talks about boundaries and our expectations, she just doesn't care and does what she feels like doing
    13 answers · 1 week ago
  • Little sister broke my phone - am I overreacting?

    I'm 14 and have an iPhone 6, my little sister dropped my phone onto the kitchen floor and smashed it, my mum said she'll get it fixed for me this week but I told my sister to leave me alone and went up to my room and cried hysterically. I don't even know why I'm sad considering it isn't that bad... show more
    I'm 14 and have an iPhone 6, my little sister dropped my phone onto the kitchen floor and smashed it, my mum said she'll get it fixed for me this week but I told my sister to leave me alone and went up to my room and cried hysterically. I don't even know why I'm sad considering it isn't that bad and I'm getting it fixed this week but is this an overreaction?
    12 answers · 1 week ago
  • My brother has caused great harm to the family and he still does some. However he is not nearly as bad as when younger. Should I forgive?

    Best answer: Fire him from the family and treat him as an ex, polite if you see him but do not seek him out until he fixes the damage he has done.
    Best answer: Fire him from the family and treat him as an ex, polite if you see him but do not seek him out until he fixes the damage he has done.
    10 answers · 1 week ago
  • How do I stop parents from getting on my nerves?

    My parents, mom especially, are always getting on my nerves for the littlest things. For example, my mom will just state the most obvious things and think that we didn't know them (me and my sister). It actually happened this morning. She woke me up at 8 and then went to wake up my sister while telling us stuff... show more
    My parents, mom especially, are always getting on my nerves for the littlest things. For example, my mom will just state the most obvious things and think that we didn't know them (me and my sister). It actually happened this morning. She woke me up at 8 and then went to wake up my sister while telling us stuff that we had to do which we already knew. She said stuff like,"Shell, you have to mow anon1 and anon2's lawn today (knew that already. I have a little business where I mow neighbor's lawns on Saturdays) and anon1 is having a party later so you have to do their lawn first (knew that too). She said that stuff pretty loudly to me and then went over to my sister's room and told her the exact same thing because she thinks we can't hear. She always does this kind of thing and whenever we ask her to stop or tell her that we know what we need to do, she gets all offended and pissed off at us because she thinks that we're talking back. Any advice to help me get less annoyed by this or help me figure out a way for them to stop? Thanks...
    11 answers · 1 week ago