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    Is it bad that I want 5 kids with him?

    I'm really thinking about having 5 kids with my babys father. But my family think I'm dumb for wanting that many kids with him considering we always need a baby sitter or money. Like OK?  Lol Isn't that what family is for? I mean, yeah, he may not pay child support, is living with and driving my car. But, I don't mind! because I can always ask my sister to take me to work or get on the bus. Or, If he doesn't want to help with our kids, I'll get my parents to do it.  Is this bad that I want 5 with him?🤔 my doctor did recommended that I get on Birth control because they said, he, my baby's father doesn't look responsible enough for kids (which made me mad) lol because he is irresponsible - that's why he has me to help him become a better man 😁

    29 Answers4 days ago
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    Mood after affair?

    So it's been a month and a half since I found out my husband had affairs for a month (that I'm aware of). For the first month things were getting better communication was great and we made some real progress on things between us. Things started declining going back to how they were before the discovery of the affairs 2 weeks ago and then he started a new job last week. Which has basically crumbled everything back to the way it was. He doesn't communicate he's in a bad mood all the time he's making assumptions about what I'm going to say. And no matter what I do or say it ends up with him getting a temper even when I'm being cheerful and accommodating to what he wants.

    What does this mean?

    What am I supposed to do? 

    I feel lost.

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    Boyfriend said he wants a prenup do I have a right to be annoyed ? ?

    My boyfriend said if we ever got married he’d want a prenup which is reasonable if it’s just me and him.

     But we want kids which I would be out of work staying at home raising for the most part , if we then break up I get the short straw I don’t have a lot saved because I’ve been sat at home raising and birthing his kids whilst he’s continued working. 

    Do I have a right to be annoyed 

    23 Answers4 days ago
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    How do I tell my brother and his wife that they can't stay here anymore. Its time for them to find a new home?

    Am I being impatient? They are having their home entirely renovated and its taking a long time because the workers there aren't doing a good job. Its been more than 2 months already. In the beginning, he said it would take them only 2 weeks and I had no problem letting my brother stay with me for that much time. But weeks has turned into months. It's gonna be 3 months on April 27. My brother doesn't work and his wife works but she left her job some time ago. They're both kinda useless. They sleep in all day, lay around and eat all the food. His wife does do a lot of work around the house. She babysits my one year old daughter, changes her and cleans the house. She helps my wife a lot but it doesn't make up for them staying here for more than 2 months. I work and pay my own bills and we can't afford more than 3 of us. They also eat a lot of food. His wife drank all the soda that I had bought and he eats a lot. I can't keep taking care of them and my wife is more annoyed than I am. Am I being impatient with them? Or do I have the right to be slightly annoyed. I can't just kick them out in the streets..I don't know what to do.

    12 Answers4 days ago
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    I have a crush on my husband’s friend?

    I am so confused because I want to be with my husband but sometimes my mind tries to convince me I want to be with his brother. I don’t want to leave my husband but I am getting sick of dealing with the obsessive thoughts of his brother, mind you I have OCD as well. Should I tell him? 

    27 Answers6 days ago
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    What should I do after my verbal battle with my wife’s sister?

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    The expectation that you should be calling everyone daily for an update is too much, inappropriate. They become more of a burden than a help.  Be glad that she's not talking...its a favor ! You have terrible inlaws !  Avoid them, unless they can behave like proper grown ups. Your wife needs to confront them, its her family. 

    10 Answers3 days ago
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    My wife is becoming a bit of a hoarder- what do I do?

    The company she works for recently returned to working in-person, and now she'll bring back stuff from the office- pens, post-its, sometimes cupcakes if people bring them in. But recently she's started hauling in whole-*** computer chairs, monitors, computer towers- pretty soon I found out this company is MORE than going out of business. They're having a goddamn auction. She's apparently been bidding big bucks for the furniture, computers, even a coffee machine! I ask where she's getting the money for this, she says she's been dipping into her 401k! It's her money, but damn, it seems irresponsible- and now our house is cluttered with office furniture! She says she's gonna sell it, but she seems to be in no rush. What the hell do I do?

    10 Answers3 days ago
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    Am I emotionally unfulfilling to my husband? ?

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    Getting engaged to someone else WHILE married is simply a sign of tremendous disrespect towards marriage. In general. Likely not specific to you. It was horrifically disrespectful to the person who thought they were engaged to him as well. Rather a general swath of disrespect. 

    He's seeking the companionship of others. He's TOLD YOU that you are not emotionally fulfilling for him. He's lousy to the other people he seeks the companionship of. Basically, you've got a husband who is lousy at the job. I would suggest you remove him from the position. 

    7 Answers4 days ago
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    would you choose your husband or lover?

    husband boring but reliable and a good provider. I took a lover for excitement. My lover is broke and doesnt work but has a boat and loves to sing in clubs. i don't have small children. who do I choose?

    25 Answers6 days ago
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    I love my husband but he's useless and never wants to do anything ?

    I'm so embarrassed by him. When we first started dating, he told me he wants me to be a stay at home mom. I agreed to do just that. But a month after our wedding, he lost his job. I was the only one working. All he does is laze around and depend on everyone to get things done for him. He won't do anything unless you grab his hand and guide him to where he needs to be. This is a grown 30 year old man by the way. All he does is play victim. He always says how he had it hard in life and no one ever gives him an opportunity. But he literally does nothing with his time. He doesn't even try for himself. He keeps depending on his dad to send him money, so even his dad is sick of him. My husband is a very nice man and I never had someone love me the way he does. But I'm completely tired of him being so useless most of the time. It's been 2 years of patience and dedication and I see nothing happening. He plays victim and blames everyone except getting out there and trying for himself. I talk to him all the time but its always the same thing, victim blaming. When I tell him I will leave him, he tells me to go right ahead if I don't love him anymore. The problem is, I do love him but he never wants wants make things work. No amount of talking ever does anything and it's literally been 2 years and 6 months of trying. On top of all this mess, he's wanting a child and tells me that we should have one and he will find a job as soon as I'm pregnant. It's exhausting dealing with my husband 

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    Please answer no ones answering ?

    What do you think about him ?

    What does it mean when a husband gifts his wife laptop worth £1000 and take her to holiday worth £4000? 

    8 Answers3 days ago
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    Do you think I deserve this because I'm a cheat with a married guy?

    I know I will get trashed for this but I'm hoping someone may be kind.  I'm in a sexless marriage. Long story. Adult kids in 20s. I'm 47.  Hubby 70.  Affair partner 49.  Affair partner and I never had intercourse.   We know what we are doing is wrong. Going on 9 years.  We are business partners. Iv had to have therapy as iv been in a dark place over this. Hes very sweet to me. In 9 years we heavy Petted 3 times.  After each time iv felt very very low. Like a piece of trash. Yesterday was 3rd time. He didn't ring me today but dropped by tonight unexpectedly.   I was so angry with myself.   I feel so used

     I'm in love with him. Deeply.   We talk every day and he seems to really like me. I'm angry because he didn't check in with me after intimacy.   Am I unreasonable.  I know I'm not entitled to anything as this is all wrong. I'm not proud. Do you think he should have called?

    12 Answers6 days ago
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    why are Americans so unsensitive?

    I live in a situation where I have no family up here, no where to go, my husband knows I wanna divorce his *** because of the way he treats me. I have no money because I recently started a new job and the money the gov gave us he kept it all because he pays most of the bills, when I have medical bills for when we had our daughter and all I have receive from American people is, stones so to speak, that I am stupid, that I don't deserve that money, that my English sucks. I HAVE NO MONEY, NO WHERE TO GO and I live in the state of MS the ONLY state where you have to have grounds for divorce. I HAVE NO CREDIT FOR A HOUSE and now my husband wants to take me to live somewhere I don't want to be ALL I am asking for is a normal life. And I have receive NO good things from Americans in this forum I used to refuse to hate ANYONE but now I am starting to understand why the rest of the world hates Americans, are ALL Americans this unsensitive?? I feel dragged by a monstroucious river to the point I have even considered suicide and NO ONE has given me a little bit of piece of mind why????

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    Am I over reacting about my husbands pot use?

    So my husband used to be a pot head before I met him (20+ years ago). I am one that has always been against pot.. I have never smoked pot/illegal drugs. When my husband started smoking pot again (maybe 5 years ago or so) I was totally against it and hated it.. main reason was because it was illegal (at the time) and I didnt think he should be doing it as an adult and since we had a child, it shouldnt be in our house, etc. Fast forward to this past year, my husband started smoking pot again (excessively-every night). When he smokes he gets "stupid", he's not himself, talking about dumb stuff and I just cant have a normal conversation with him. He is also VERY unreliable when he is high. Example being that we have 2 kids at home, I was in a lot of pain (11:30pm) and I had to call my FATHER to take me to the hospital because my husband was "too tired" (stoned) to take me. I ended up with appendicitis and had to get my appendix removed, all while my husband slept at home and wouldnt answer my calls/texts for me to tell him that I wasnt coming home. I know its legal now and thats not even the issue anymore, its the fact that he isnt himself (ever) and I want my husband back! I want to feel safe like I used to, and not always worry that I cant rely on him for anything. Talking to him about cutting back isnt gonna work because he is a recovering alcoholic and he doesnt know his limits or when to stop. So for him its either all or nothing.. What should I do? Its effecting our family!

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    What do you think about what my husband did?

    when the gov recently passed money it went all to his banc acc he just gave me my part, knowing I have about 2000 medical bills in debt he said he was going to handle it all because he is the one that pays all bills which is true. I was unemployed but I recently found a job. So anyway he is getting to keep that money plus whatever the gov gives us for taxes. Well of the money that was left there were about 500.00 which he told me he would give me, but because of his way of treating me I told him I had to think about if I stayed in this relationship, so he decided not to give me anything and he said that he was not going to give any money if I was going to walk out of this relationship. What was I going to do with 500.00??? buy a brand new house with furniture included?? change my car?? anyway the thing is he says things like you pay for daycare because those are expenses YOU are generating because of you working. and because I asked him that money for medical expenses his boss told him I was acting like a piece of garbage, when he is the one who was about to walk out of the house telling me you figure out who to pay the mortgage now or go homeless.

    11 Answers6 days ago
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