what is "presentation preferred" on wedding invitation?

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  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago
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    The standard, formal wedding invitation wordings;

    Step 1: Who is Hosting?

    The first names your guests will see on your wedding invitation are those of the people who are paying for the event. Traditionally, this has been the bride's parents, and so it reads:

    Mr. and Mrs. Marvin Beazley


    Kate and Marvin Beazley

    If the bride and groom are hosting, then the line reads

    Ms.Jane Doe and Mr. Sam Smith


    Together with their families,

    Jane Doe and Sam Smith

    Step 2: The Request

    The next line in a wedding invitation is the one that requests that your guests attend.

    If your ceremony is at a place of worship, then the line should read:

    Request the honour of your presence

    at the marriage of their daughter

    Note the formal British spelling of the word "honor." The word daughter is used as an example and should be the gender of the person whose parents are hosting. If, on the other hand your ceremony is at home or other secular location, then the line should read:

    Request the pleasure of your company

    at the marriage of their daughter


    would be delighted for you to attend

    the marriage of their daughter

    If the couple is hosting:

    invite you to join us at the celebration of our marriage

    Step 3: The Happy Couple

    Etiquette says that the bride should be listed first, using first and middle names only. Then the groom should be listed, using both title and middle name.

    So for example:

    Nora Jane


    Mr. Scott Andrew Jackson

    A more modern alternative is simply,

    Nora Beazley

    to Scott Jackson

    Some couples, especially Jewish couples, may choose to use and instead of to.

    Step 4: Date and Time

    Traditionally, these are spelled out:

    Saturday, the tenth of June

    two thousand and six

    at four o'clock in the afternoon

    note that the month and day are capitalized. If it were a 4:30 ceremony, the time would read at half after four o'clock in the afternoon.

    but you can also write

    Saturday, June 10, 2006

    at 4 p.m.

    Step 5: The Location

    If the ceremony is at a well known location, you needn't include the address:

    The Museum of Fine Arts

    Houston, Texas

    but for smaller locations, or your home, you'd want to write out the address.

    The Art Club

    49 Marquis Road

    Blair, Utah

    Step 6: Time for the Reception

    Let your guests know there is going to be a party. This can either be included on the wedding invitation or on a separate reply card.

    On the wedding invitation, it would read

    Reception to follow at the Briar Hills Country Club

    If you're not serving a full meal, it is nice to let guests know. You might write:

    And afterwards for cocktails and cake in the Rose Room.


    Dessert and dancing to follow

    A separate reception card is often good to use if the ceremony and reception are in different places, or the reception doesn't immediately follow the ceremony. It might read something like


    8 o'clock

    Parker Grand Hotel

    342 Allen Road

    Pike, Oregon

    Step 7: Get Them to RSVP

    Traditionally, R.S.V.P. was written on the invitation, and guests knew to reply on their own stationary. Now, most couples find that they get responses more promptly if they include a separate reply card.

    This can be mostly blank, allowing guests to write a note, with a line such as:

    The favor of a reply is requested before the first of June

    Or it can be more detailed, such as

    Please reply before the first of June


    _________Will attend

    _________Will not attend

    You might also write:

    Number of people in party_____

    Step 8: Optional details

    Optional details include telling your guests what to wear. Strictest etiquette tells you not to include information about attire on your invitation, but I think this is an outdated opinion. Guests appreciate clues about how to dress, and are not as instinctively knowledgeable as they used to be. To avoid someone showing up in blue jeans, include a line such as:

    Black Tie

    Other options: Semi-formal, cocktail attire, festive attire, creative black tie, white tie, black tie optional, dressy casual, informal.

    Some couples who wish not to have children at the reception may write:

    Adult reception

    Which is more polite than writing No Children

    Do NOT include information about gifts, your registry, or cash in lieu of gifts. This is an invitation, not a request for presents.

  • 1 decade ago

    If at all you want to take any presentation on the wedding - you may go in for the item suggested under - "Presentation preferred". This is intended to avoid multiple gifts of same items.

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