Is he using me or does he really like me?

Well this is kind of complicated right now so I met this guy and we set a date for thursday and we had sex and we barely knew each other for a week.Then after he left to Frisco to visit his mom, and I am kind of confused because he lives with his ex-girlfiend and he is trying to raise money to move out on his own so I can move in with him...But we haven't talked in a while because he says if his ex sees him talking to another girl she will put him out but he wants me to be friends with her so I can go and chill with him so I won't feel like bad.So are they together or am I over reacting.And their might be a possibility that I am pregnant by him.Please help me I need answers before Tuesday I think I am in love for the first time.

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  • 1 decade ago
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    sweetie, his a-s-s is still with his "ex". do u have a problem with your self? 2 have sex after one week tells me u don't love or care about yourself. god loves u so much that he gave jesus to die 4 u. look 2 him and stop thinking a it's him, it u. u had sex with him after one week so that make u easy. stop,stop stop, before u get something u can't give back.

  • 1 decade ago

    Straight up girl...you answered your own question. Don't let your emotions confuse your better judgment. His ex is really his girlfriend. He's playing her just as much as you're being played. If you go play and make friends with his so called "Ex," then you'd only be an enabler to his lies and you, yourself would become a lie. The truth is, you're not just a buddy, coming over to kick it with him and his ex chick. How uncomfortable is that? And common sense should have sent warning flags all off in your head when he told you bullshit about him being kicked out if he's even caught talking to another girl. If they're separated, then truthfully, what the hell is he still doing there? I understand he needs money to move out, but sounds to me, she is supporting him and why support someone if they're not together any more? Why get mad if they're not together. If he has a job and is paying rent, his food and etc, then who is to say that girl has any authority on who he can speak with, if they're not together. Email me if you want to talk more. I'm being rushed off the computer. Sorry.

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    I am so sorry.You are so gullible hon.If you want to know if a guy loves you or not there is one way and ONLY one way and one way ONLY to know.Make him MARRY you BEFORE you EVER have sex.Chances are he may want to move out, then maybe he just used you for a cheap throw away human sex toy.Why can't he go to a homeless shelter if he loves you so much, his mom's,?No friends or other family members he can stay with?Does he work?If not,YOU will be supporting HIM like his so called "ex g/f" is doing now.She controls the relationship by giving him a place to stay and she still isn't able to keep him. why do you think that method will work for you?It won't.You can learn PLENTY about a person WITHOUT having sex or shacking with them.First he obviously is NOT man enough to stand on his own 2 feet.You may think by "rescuing " him this will turn into love.No, it will just turn into his ex g/f's relationship.If he will cheat on her with you, he will cheat on you with ANYONE who will drop her panties hon.Now realize you made a mistake(hope you aren't pregnant) and LEARN from this and quit screwing around. We do NOT need another welfare mom with no dad for the baby.

  • 1 decade ago

    You are only confused because you had sex with him, which obviously was a bad choice. He does not care about you, or his girlfriend. he used you for convenient sex, and thats all. He is not going to move out on his own so that you can move in with him. You only wish that you are pregnant by him, to make yourself feel better because you let him use you. Grow up really fast and dont ask questions you already know the answers to.

    Source(s): watching my friends have sex with guys in the hope that they will care about them after they get off, please.....
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  • Don
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    1 decade ago

    Girl, you have really messed up. First, sex early in a relationship is irresponsible and doing it without protection is just plain stupid. Secondly he doesn't have the means to support himself and has to live with an ex-girlfriend? Forget it, this guy is a loser. He wants you to get chummy with his ex so maybe he get into a threesome. You need to get away and get away fast and find out about that possible pregnancy quickly so you will have options.

  • 1 decade ago

    If he is saying he can't talk to you because of the ex girlfriend then he is placing her above you. Does that really sound like a guy who is trying to leave?

    And I hate to say these things because I know it is not what you want to hear. I have been in a similar situation and had my heart broken. You have to look at what the man is doing, not what he is saying to you.

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    Girl.....the only thing Im thinking is....why did you sleep with him? Haven't you heard of getting to know him first? What if he had STDs or something? As for pregnany....there's a high chance if you didnt use a condom. How can you love a stranger? I suggest you let it go, cuz he might have lied about her being his ex. That way he could have two girls.

    Source(s): Opinion.
  • 1 decade ago

    Obviously he is trying to play you sweetie don't fall for that don't confuse lust for love it is to short of time to feel that way good luck you'll need it raising kids is hard work, One thing though you slept with someone you just met with out using protection? Not a smart thing to do.

  • 1 decade ago

    i see where yur comin frm nd im kind of in the same situation except the pregnant bit lol if ur preg than that can be really bad if u guys onli just sorta met. if he's seein other chicks around nd he had sex with u that soon then he is probably a sleaze.. dont get too caught up in it... i wudnt stay with him

  • 1 decade ago

    Well girl from my past experiences it sounds to me like he is infact using you. I know it is hard to accept that when someone says it to you but that is my opinion. Maybe you should try to become friends with his ex if that is really what she is. I mean you would be surprised what people will tell you and not even know they are being questioned. ohh dang. I just realized my puter was signed in on my hubbys name..lol..my screenname is frazier_mcnorton_inc if you need to talk or anything. -laterz-

    Source(s): Personal experience
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