Why are Muslim women not allowed to marry Non Muslim Men?

Why are Muslim men allowed to marry non muslim women. Muslim women are only allowed to marry Muslim men. Doesn't that sound like expansion of empire. Also Muslim men can have 4 wives? Is it just a coincidence that for 4/5 th of the converts are females in America. So what are the women going to do import men from the middle east to marry? or are they planning to practice polygamy?


It says so in the Quran, Muslim men can marry Jewish and Christian women. Muslim women cannot.

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  • 1 decade ago
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    In a Muslim family, the husband is the head of the household. It would be very difficult for a Muslim wife to practice Islam properly if her husband were not Muslim.

    Muslims do not drink alcohol or do drugs. Muslims are not allowed to sit at a table where alcohol is served. Muslims don't eat pork products.

    Muslim women wear hijab when they are with males who are not close relatives.

    Muslims do not touch members of the opposite sex who are not close relatives. This includes shaking hands with, for example, a cousin or in-law.

    Muslims fast at least thirty days per year, which means abstaining from food, drink, and intimacy.

    Muslim women refrain from intimacy during their menses and after childbirth.

    Muslim women are entitled to privacy and respect. A Muslim woman wears hijab, and her husband must help and encourage her in doing this.

    A Muslim husband has to support his wife and family. The wife is not required to contribute any of her assets or income to support her family, or even to support herself. Of course, she may contribute if she wants (and most of us who work do) but it she does, it counts as an act of charity.

    At the time of marriage, a Muslim bride is entitled to a mehr, or dower--a gift from the husband. Most often this gift consists of a combination of jewelry and cash. This belongs entirely to her. And, by the way, the bridegroom has to pay all of the expenses of the wedding--even to buy his fiance's wedding gown.

    Among the many female relatives a Muslim man is responsible to protect and support are mothers- and daughters-in-law. Every Muslim husband knows that one day he may have his in-laws in his home, permanently. It's part of a Muslim husband's awesome responsibilities.

    In most religious traditions, the husband is the head of the household, and the wife has to obey him in most circumstances. A non-Muslim husband might well want his wife to do something her religion prohibits, or not to do something her religion requires. Even if he didn't force her to do it, the potential for conflict is considerable, especially as time goes on and life becomes more complex.

    Muslim men are allowed to have more than one wife because of the well-known shortage of good, responsible, caring men. They aren't required to marry more than one woman, and actually, relatively few of them do, because marriage is such a huge responsibility.

    A Muslim man who has more than one wife has to treat them equally. This means he has to provide similar food, shelter, clothing, medical care, etc., for each of them and for all of their children. He has to spend equal time with each of them. If he buys new furniture for one home, he has to buy it for the homes of the other wives. If he takes one on vacation, he has to take each of them on a similar vacation.

    Remember his responsibility to his in-laws? Consider what that means, doubled, tripled, or quadrupled!

    Not only that, he has to treat all of his wives the same, and each should feel that she is the one he loves the best.

    Prophet Muhammad (God bless him and grant him peace) taught that a man who does not treat his wives equally will be resurrected with one side of his body sagging.

    He said to the Muslim men, "The best among you is the one who is the best to his wives, and I am the best among you."

    As for female American reverts, some do marry immigrants, and some marry American Muslims. A few are involved in polygynous marriages, but actually, polygyny is rare (fewer than 5% of Muslim marriages anywhere) because of the responsibility the husband has to bear.

    Source(s): Women in Islam vs. the Judeao-Christian traditions. http://www.islam.org/mosque/w_islam/intro.htm Gender Equality in Islam by Professor Jamal Badawi-Excellent! http://www.soundvision.com/gender/ The Spiritual Role of Women in Islam http://www.mwlusa.org/publications/essays/spiritro...
  • MBC
    Lv 4
    1 decade ago

    As the psychology and position in society and the household are different for the two sexes, so are the rulings regarding each. In the case of marriage, it is commonly recognized in virtually all cultural groups that the man is the head of the household. That is not to say that there isn't power-sharing between the spouses which varies from place to place and family to family, but men tend to have a dominant position within families generally.

    In light of this fact, Muslim women are not allowed to marry Jewish or Christian men for fear that they will have a certain amount of dominance over them and their children which may preclude them from practicing Islam. There is no guarantee stipulated within either of these religions which allows a wife of another faith to practice her religion freely. On the other hand, A Muslim man is required by Islamic law to not hinder his Christian or Jewish wife from practicing her faith.

    As to the expansion of empire idea, I would think "the more the merrier" would apply. If all the Muslims married anybody else, irrespective of faith, wouldn't that lead to this expansion faster? And yet, there are limitation for the specific reasons mentioned earlier. In addition, the exception for Christians and Jews is due to the similar beliefs and values that are shared as opposed to other faiths.

    On the demographic front, it is a good thing that there are far more single Muslim men coming to America than there are women or families. So there is some balance to the numbers in terms of pairing. Finding enough husbands to go around here in the American Muslim community is not much of an issue and neither is polygamy.

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    I would answer but last time I answered a very similar question I was reported by all the Muslims. Oh well, I'll answer anyway.

    They are "advised" not to marry a non-Muslim because they know a man has a certain amount of control over a woman. They don't want the Muslim woman forced or coerced into following another belief. Now a Muslim man can marry a woman from another faith. I wonder why? Could it be because he will have a certain amount of control over a woman thus forcing or coercing her to become a Muslim? Also, all the children will be Muslim because the father is.

    God Bless.

  • ST
    Lv 4
    1 decade ago

    Because it is believed that if a Muslim woman married a non Muslim man, the children will grow up in there fathers religion because women will do what there husband wants. This is the Muslim view. Muslim men can marry Christian and Jewish women because they are "people of the book", the children will be raised Muslim and the wife likely will convert to Islam.

    What's funny is I worked with a Muslim guy who married a Roman Catholic and the children were raised Roman Catholic, so it shows it can work both ways. I should mention though that I knew a Muslim guy that wasn't very religious who was interested in a woman that came to his work. When he found out she was a Buddhist(he assumed she was a Christian) he stopped answering her calls.

    Source(s): Former Muslim
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  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    Muslim women are not allowed to marry non-muslim men because if they do, their children will no longer be muslim but will follow the father's religion (although most couples prefer to teach their children about both religions) They will no longer be 100% muslim but 50% muslim

  • cloud
    Lv 7
    1 decade ago

    Muslim women before they think about marriage or while they are playing with dolls. There father sells them to the highest bidder. So it isn't like they have an opportunity to look for a husband. Muslim men can have as many wifes as they can afford to buy.

    One man said on here his father had 12 wives. He saved his money to buy more young virgins. so that the women he did have he could barely feed and the children from these women were forced to beg in the streets.

    He tried to get his mother away from him he was one of the oldest and the father was being very abusive to his mother and he feared for her life. They have a way of getting rid of the oldest wives to acquire more younger ones.

    Also, he was trying to provide food for his younger brothers and sisters. divorce is the women killing herself.

    And that is what she did along with one of the daughters he was using for sex. They are sexual diviants and use marriage as a way to explain their bad behavior.

    He was saying that and he was the son of one of these mulims men.

    But he did not approve of the practice.

    Why would any sane women marry a muslim man? If she had a choice? If she chooses to marry one then she deserves what she gets. But I doubt very much any women would be stupid enough to do that.

  • 1 decade ago

    women are only allowed to marry Muslim men because they will raise according to man religion and few examples ppl here are giving its most recommended to men that they marry muslim woman rather than choosing ppl of the book .according to you 4/5 converts are females and 1 is male so 1 male will marry 4 and live there life.. i dont say its in your question.

    For ppl who dont know if muslim men are or not allowed

    "This day are (all) things good and pure made lawful unto you. The food of the People of the Book is lawful unto you and yours is lawful unto them. (Lawful unto you in marriage) are (not only) chaste women who are believers, but chaste women among the People of the Book, revealed before your time,- when ye give them their due dowers, and desire chastity, not lewdness, nor secret intrigues if any one rejects faith, fruitless is his work, and in the Hereafter he will be in the ranks of those who have lost (all spiritual good). (The Noble Quran, 5:5)"

    Allah Almighty made lawful for Muslim men to marry Jewish and Christian women. How is this supposed to agree with the theory that Islam prohibits Muslims from making Jewish and Christian personal friends.

  • 1 decade ago

    Your first question :

    Why are Muslim women not allowed to marry Non Muslim Men?

    Dear Questioner,

    I pray this message finds you well.

    Muslim women are not permitted to marry non-Muslim men, Jewish or otherwise.

    The clear proofs of this prohibition are in the Qur'an and the Sunna of the Messenger, Allah bless him and give him peace.

    For example, the Qur'an says,

    "Do not marry unbelieving women (idolaters), until they believe: A slave woman who believes is better than an unbelieving woman, even though she allures you. Nor marry (your girls) to unbelievers until they believe: A man slave who believes is better than an unbeliever, even though he allures you. Unbelievers do (but) beckon you to the Fire. But God beckons by His Grace to the Garden (of bliss) and forgiveness, and makes His Signs clear to mankind: That they may celebrate His praise." (Al-Baqarah, 2:221)

    The only exception to this verse is the following, which permits Muslim men to marry Christian and Jewish women:

    "This day are (all) good things made lawful for you. The food of those who have received the Scripture is lawful for you, and your food is lawful for them. And so are the virtuous women of the believers and the virtuous women of those who received the Scripture before you (lawful for you) when ye give them their marriage portions and live with them in honour, not in fornication, nor taking them as secret concubines. Whoso denieth the faith, his work is vain and he will be among the losers in the Hereafter." (Al-Maidah, 5:5)

    The consensus of scholars from the Sunni tradition is that Muslim men are permitted to marry Christian and Jewish women under certain circumstances, even though it is better for them to seek Muslim wives. Muslim women, however, can only marry Muslim men.

    Islamic law has its own logic and these and similar rulings must be understood from within Muslims' own historical, social, and legal contexts.

    Islamic law presupposes that the children will take the religion of their father. Therefore, if a Muslim woman were to marry a non-Muslim man, there is a legitimate concern that her children would not be raised as Muslims. Unlike a Muslim man, who is required by his religion to respect his Christian or Jewish wife's beliefs, a non-Muslim man is in no way required by his religion to respect his Muslim wife's beliefs. Therefore, the minimum requirement for a Muslim woman is that her husband share her faith.

    Returning to the time of the Prophet, Allah bless him and give him peace, there is no evidence that he permitted Muslim women to marry non-Muslim men. To the contrary, there is strong evidence that Muslim women refused to marry non-Muslim men until they sincerely embraced Islam.

    I hope this answers all your questions.

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    God put the rules and he is all wise and all knower.

    many women are secret lovers now days, or been taking advantage by men without no right of marriage, women become as sex sells. marriage give rights to those women, plus there are many widows or single women who couldn't find men to marry and in the same time they don't want to do something against God. and it's up to the woman to say Yes or No to such a marriage.

  • 1 decade ago

    put it this way. they can only marry muslims..

    so the non-muslim must convert to muslim first before getting married.. this applies to all muslim not only for women..

    get your facts right.

  • 1 decade ago


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