I'm having sex with my own aunt (5 years now) and I'm addicted to the sex, but how do I get away? Do I stay?
Ok, I'll make a very long story short.
I never planned this. I've been having sex with my aunt since I moved away to college, the same city she lives in. I live with her and sleep with her. I'm totally addicted to the crazy sex. She has me feeling trapped and like I'm missing out on life. I'm almost 23 now and going to graduate college soon . When it started I was 18 and she was 36. She and my mother don't talk (long story, family feud), so I hadn't seen my aunt in years. The last I saw her was when I was 11 and she was married to my uncle. They were both religious and my aunt was very plain looking. They were very fuddy duddy. But they got divorced. He left her for some other woman in his church.
Fast forward. I move away to college. I'm 18. My aunt lives in the same city. Soon after arriving at college, I was living it up. Meeting girls and going to parties. It was great. I called my aunt to say hi a couple of weeks after school started. She said "Don't be a stranger." So I stopped by a few weeks after school started thinking she was going to have me do boring chores in the backyard, and preach to me about religion.
When she opened the door I was in for the shock of my life. She was a hot *** MILF. She had gained some weight in all the right places (she used to be skinny as a rail), and everything about her was hot as hell. She kind of looks like that porn star Priya Rai. DAMN. I had to gulp. It was awkward. Fast forward again: on another visit, we were in her backyard drinking on a Friday night. Music playing. We got drunk. Dancing. And yep, one thing led to another. Next thing I know, we're in her bed naked and having sex like hungry animals. All I can say is that it was the most incredible sex I ever had (until later). I wish she was ANYBODY else but my aunt.
I felt so guilty and disgusted with myself. I woke up in her bed in the middle of the night. She said she didn't regret it at all. She was ok with it. I said I never want my mother to find out. She said we're both adults. It's nobody else' business who we have sex with. I didn't talk to her for two weeks. I was so confused and warped. Then she called me and said she wanted to talk. I went to see her and she drops a huge BOMBSHELL on me. She says, "I want a relationship. Strings attached. I will give you all the sex you want. Any kind of sex you want it, anytime. And I want you to be the dominant one in the relationship."
My mind freaking exploded. What do you think I did? I was 18. Anyhow, she is like a venus flytrap. She has keep me addicted to BDSM sex, anal sex with her, she lets me watch porn during sex. She's a sex obsessed woman who latched on to me. She does everything for me. I mean everything. Meals. Rent. Food. She even went out and got a breast augmentation job just for me.
Here's my problem: I'm trapped! I miss my life. I've been in this for 5 years now, hiding it from my family. I see no future in this. But my "body" is living a fantasy. I don't know what to do.
WHEW! Just admitting this to strangers has made me feel so much relief. I avoided counselors because it was face to face. I go back and forth with being disgusted and physical pleasures. She has stolen a normal life from me. I should have been dating and being "normal." Man, this is going to be difficult. I have been deprived of normal relationships. God I hate my life.
Whoa. I just read #10 "Natalie's" comment. Now I'm reconsidering it all. I never thought of it like that. Wow.
To all the comments who said I should have just walked away. It wasn't that easy. In the beginning, I told her "This is too complicated." She said, "No, complicated is when you came inside my pussy. This is beyond complicated. This is what I want now."
Over the years, I have worked up the nerve to walk away, but then she walks into the room naked and I'm done. Resistance has always been useless.
- Anonymous9 years agoBest Answer
Look, don't worry about being normal, that ship has sailed and it's just as well. Normal is dull. But if you want things to be different, and she wants you to be the dominant one, then BE dominant. Take over. Change things to how you want them to be, and do things you like. Alter your life to include the things you want and that makes you like yourself. Get back into your own skin.
But all that doesn't mean you have to give up the great sex you are getting. It just means being a grown up and crafting an adult life. Yes it's hard, that's part of life. But being adult means making permanent choices while trying not to do any harm to people.
Don't feel guilty for the fun relationship you have with her. But if it is not satisfying somehow, change it. I'm sure she doesn't want you to be miserable. It should be possible to make plans that include you getting back to the person you want to be without trying to kick her away.
- 5 years ago
If you have sex with an aunt who is an inlaw of your mother or father, that is not in the same bloodline, it is not incest. although really incest is like f ing your sister or mother. i mean in the 19th century it was not uncommon for blood cousins to marry. i did not read most of your long story so i don't know if i answered any questions. i think its not a very good idea to have sexual relations with relatives, not for moral reasons but it just makes life complicated and can cause alot of bad feelings within the families and even with your friends and lovers. and i would not get all upset about being a sex addict. someday some asshole urologist is going to talk you into a prostate procedure you don't need and you will never be able to splooge again. dry orgasm feels like nothing and many times is painful. it is worse than death....btw is anyone else a dumb *** like me who gives answers to questions that are several years old?
- TinaLv 44 years ago
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This man is totally toxic for you and has more problems than you can ever solve. Just because you love someone doesn't make them right for you and this man definitely isn't right for anyone right now. Finding love is not about finding a lost puppy on the street that needs your care. It's about finding a healthy partner who adds to your life and shares your future goals. You have to find out why you fell for this person who obviously isn't prepared for what you have to offer. There are so many red flags here with this guy and you need to be careful to notice those in the future. You will find love, but you have to be smart about it.
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- 9 years ago
she can't control you. i think if you see no future in it why stay? Don't you want a family, a woman who loves you for you and not just as a sex toy? don't you want to really love the one you have sex with and not only love the sex they give? you are not trapped if you want any of the things i said leave your aunt. there is so much more life has to offer enstead of just sex i say you go find someone that you love and that loves you back and start a family. best of luck.
i hope this helped.Source(s): it's my opinion
- Anonymous3 years ago
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- frank rLv 65 years ago
I have never liked physically any female family member. It is a grey area to even go out with anyone that is related to you by blood or marriage. I have had a crush on friends of my mothers or friends mothers. This is also an area that should be avoided. The sexual thing is a trap do not get caught in it. Your aunt sounds like a real nympho. Please do the right thing and you will be able to sleep at night. I wish you well and good luck.
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- Anonymous3 years ago
I'll take your place! Lol. I'm 19 with a great job. But if your aunt is hot I'll gladly swap you out. Lmao
- 9 years ago
Get over your bodys fantasy. There are plenty of other girls out there, just like her. Only younger and not related to you. I think you should cut it off. You're young, you can surely find someone who you can have a real relationship with. A relationship that isn't all about the twisted sex. Your mind is stronger than your penis. Your penis doesn't think, your head does. Start overpowering it, and get to doing what's right!
- 4 years ago
If you are the dominant one, then dominate. Tell her to suck your ____, and when she finishes, tell her you have a date, and go. When you find a girl as much fun as your aunt, go live with her! I d still stop by once a week to tell your aunt to strip and bend over and grab her ankles. Eventually, she will either leave you alone, or you can both have the occasional quickie, or night together. Either way, be what she told you to be, and run your own life!