Those with asperger partners/kids/friends etc etc..............................

Question

....do you feel the positives of their pesonality, who they are, overshine the negatives? obviously the negatives are hard to live with sometimes, and they can make you frustrated, angry, upset, hurt etc etc, do you tend to try to accept thats just what aspergers is? but find you still get hurt, frustrated...

Answer 1

The positives WAY outshine the negatives. I mean, my friend is smart, beautiful, funny... I look up to her in a lot of ways. She just has trouble sometimes. When people say "ignore the things people say" and she claims she can't... she really CAN'T. It's a compulsion that makes her react and it makes it harder. Usually I step in and tell people to step off. That's the joy of her having a big girl for a friend. Usually they're afraid of me when I'm angry. 1) I'm large and obviously have some serious she-muscles. And 2) Welcome to American descrimination- I'm a Muslim. They're terrified of me for sneezing half the time. She has my back when people are rude to me, and I have her back when she needs it. I feel cheated that we aren't really blood sisters, honestly. :-) <3 her to bits.

Answer 2

My father is pretty much confirmed to have it, and I've been diagnosed with an extremely mild case. I'm starting to wonder if I may have simply learned Asperger's behaviors from my father, because I've reached the point where I'm approximating normal rather better than he is, despite his decades of experience. Could be just because I'm the only one who's received professional treatment, though. I feel like although I didn't have a chance to learn empathy or other social skills well from my own parents, I've picked up on them quite nicely just be figuring out what to look for. I can generally read someone's mood fairly well at a glance, and talking to them for more than a few seconds lays everything bare, clear as day. I've gotten VERY good at reading body language and tone of voice. People who meet me in person say I have a fun (some have used the word "bubbly") personality (and that I seem to be VERY smart), and that I've always got a smile of some kind on my face.

I've still never had a girlfriend, though. :/ Maybe I'll have better luck once I transfer to a 4-year college.

Answer 3

I work with a guy with Arspergers and he has made himself in to a hermit, detaching himself really anyone outside work.

The first year was hard then by the next season he knew the score but I find that people pussy foot around him at times making his behavior and attitude of just having aspergers which is wrong because he can get aggressive and such if you allow it!!

He has stopped taking medication because he thinks it is everybody else that is mad!!

With him personally, he needs watched and kept on top of never letting him to do what he wants. You tell him to make a straight fence form A to B, he will have it zig zaging all over the place for what ever reason he saw fit! Unfortunately he has a strange fascination with young woman!!

I see him as a person and look at both his positive and negative nature to make my opinion but his condition is no excuse to treat him different as that it is not something that can be changed and I certainly won't be feeling sorry for him!!

May sound like I am cruel but I am sure him and other people with disability's wont appreciate getting mothered and felt sorry for. You just get on with things and thats that, deal with things as they come!!

You can't change him so you work around things and everybody is happy!!

Answer 4

I noticed you referred to Asperger's Syndrome as an "Illness", as an Aspergic myself, I can tell you that it's the complete opposite of an illness, as long as it was nurtured during childhood and/or teenage years, it becomes a gift, a gateway to imagination. Einstein, the great inventor, was Aspergic, Da Vinci the creative artist and inventor, Aspergic. people who are diagnosed later in life get it more tough and are usually packed with med's to try and make them fit in with the crowd.
However much you may see Asperger's as a disability.
Don't.

Answer 5

I work with people with various cognitive deficits, I've been doing it a long time.
I don't take work personally-folk with Aspergers are some of the easier people I deal with.
I think they have the hardest time of all the folks with any type of autism Spectrum Disorder.
because they are most able to get involved with social interaction.
as for the rest of Autism Spectrum, I think the parents suffer most because they mourn the child they did not get. The person with autism is just fine with themselves and not really worried about the stuff we are bothered by.

Answer 6

For me the positives out shine the negatives.
When the negatives hit, and they will, I listen, stay close, and don't take them personal.
The tough part was getting help and a diagnosis.
She is 17 soon to be 18.

Answer 7

I think it is taken in a more negative light. It is a developmental disability that the general public has yet to learn about.

Answer 8

I can relate to this because I have Aspergers and it sucks. I have no friends, never got invited out, and never gone on a date.

Answer 9

Sometimes but their negatives may be too overwhelming for them to experience.

Answer 10

My psychiatrist claims I have aspergers. Funny huh; do I sound autistic to you?