Is it easier to get a new GF, or let go of your dreams?

We have a problem, minor to her major to me. I love to travel, she doesn't really care for it. Trip to Europe, I say when can we leave, she says do we really have to go. Going to Europe is like pulling teeth, who the heck doesn't want to spend two weeks traveling England, Italy, Spain or Germany? Asia forget it, Canada never going to happen, South America, maybe a few years down the line. That is the real rub, there are places I want to see that she won't visit. I want to see the Great Wall and Terracotta Army, she says she will never visit China, no way no how. Same with other places like Peru, safari in Africa, Normandy and India. What do I do? Those and several other places are bucket list items, places she will not visit. She has already hinted at the fact that me traveling alone isn't going to fly with her. She feels that as a couple we need to travel together, and that I need to give up the idea of visiting these places alone (since she isn't going period). So do I plan the trip anyway and let the chips fall where they may, or look for someone new? It's either that or give up the idea of visiting these places all together.

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  • ?
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    10 years ago
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    New girlfriend. Way way way too controlling. There are other fish in the sea. Ones that will let you do what you want to do and enjoy your life.

  • Anonymous
    10 years ago

    New gf. If she doesn't want to travel anywhere, but she won't let you travel alone or with someone that is not her, then she is being unreasonable. To be fair, she should at least allow you to travel with someone else (family member, friend, etc). To just forbid you or make it terribly awful to get to go on a trip is just unfair and the equivalent of smashing your hopes and dreams with a cricket bat and then stomping on the remains.

  • 10 years ago

    new GF. She is stupid not to go with you in my opinion. If i had a BF who wanted to go all those places I would be the happiest person ever, but my point is there are plenty of nice girls out there who would LOVE to travel with you to those places. So dont stick with someone who dosent share the same goals as you and will hold you back. Find that girl who would die to go to those places too.

  • Anonymous
    10 years ago

    I would never get in the way of my bf dreams just like i wouldn't accept him getting in the way of mine. This is because i love him, his dreams are part of who he is and i WANT him to fulfil them, i want him to do what will make him happy.

    Don't give up your dreams for someone who wants you too. If she cares for you she would tell you to live your life the way you want to, even if that didn't include her!

    You can stay with her and give up your dreams but it won't last because one day you will wake up and realise that she isn't the one for you BECAUSE she didn't accept your dreams; it could be too late for you to make your dreams reality then.

    Don't compromise for someone who won't compromise for you.

    You won't even remember her name when you first see the Great wall, or when your ten foot away from a lion, or even when you are at the top of the london eye seeing London for miles (i live in england this is something you want to do if you come here).

    Live your dreams and find someone who wouldn't have you without them!!!

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  • Anonymous
    10 years ago

    You need a new girl friend there are plenty of women. But say it gently. Your dreams should be way more important than just some crappy girl aww man! I just insulted my self!

  • 10 years ago

    new gf

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