He never wanted to be in a relationship with me but still keeps tabs on me?

Well, it's a long story. A man I was interested did not like me enough to want to be in a relationship with me. He basically just wanted sex. I was speaking to him some times. He is very physically attracted to me. He worked in my school. Later on, he filed a complaint against me stating that I followed and bothered him. Well, I met up with the dean three times and even he said he believed me (as the guy made up lies and twisted things). Now, he stated that he wanted me to stay away from him and I have completely left him alone. The thing is, he does not take his own advice. He comes by my class just watching ne, in a way to keep tabs and I'm sick of what he does.

When I first spoke to him summertime, he asked to look into my phone (I did not show him). He gets VERY jealous of any guy I talked to and would watch me speaking to him or eavesdrop in on my conversation. He would give me evil glares whenever I spoke to my friends (male and female). He even told his male coworker not to speak to me anymore (he was giving me advice about school and my major so that was unnecessary) and even told me who I should and should not talk to.

His behavior is disturbing. He doesn't want me, wants me to leave him alone yet behaves in this manner? I read "Why Men Love Bitches" and I saw so many mistakes that I should not have allowed at all. I am truly working on that at the moment. I am sick of his hypocrisy. I hace ignored him since the dean said to let it go, but I just want him to stop watching me especially since I left him alone for good and I'm moving on.

He's not a professor at all. Just a laboratory tech. What do I do?


I never slept with him and you can't comprehend what I'm saying, so you'll be blocked.

3 Answers

  • Sassy
    Lv 6
    6 years ago
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    His mentality is 'if he can't have you then no one can'. Yes, his behavior is disturbing, and he is probably used to getting his way and NOT being told no. Ignore all eye contact with him and make sure your social media sites are kept private. If he gets aggressive, report it to the dean and inform the deal you are calling the police to make a report.

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  • .
    Lv 7
    6 years ago

    This belongs in Other - F&R (not Marriage & Divorce)...

    If it's that serious of an issue, get a restraining order...otherwise just ignore the guy and don't consider every time you make eye contact to be an act of stalking...if you two are at the same school or place of business, chances are pretty high you will occasionally run into one another...

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  • 6 years ago

    This is going to sound harsh, but: Grow up.

    He looks in your direction occasionally. That's it.

    If you don't want men you've slept with to look at you, then don't sleep with men that you will have to see again.

    Reading books and stuff all because of a few glances, geesh.

    And to be honest, I am inclined to believe that YOU are the one "stalking" him.

    Stop it.

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