Is it okay to hate my adult step kids for having children before me?

My oldest step child has been married for 15 years I have only been married a few months.

Some how this isn't right. We are planning children, my step kids already have teen children.... This situation has become very awkward
Update: TriHarder, oldest to the youngest F 36, M, 34, M, 32, F, 30 youngest F 28. Number of step grandchildren 16 and I'm only 30. Each time one of them pops out another I end up having anxiety attacks, where I have to leave to my mother's. My mum has already had a word with my husband but it does no good, and... show more TriHarder, oldest to the youngest F 36, M, 34, M, 32, F, 30 youngest F 28.
Number of step grandchildren 16 and I'm only 30.

Each time one of them pops out another I end up having anxiety attacks, where I have to leave to my mother's. My mum has already had a word with my husband but it does no good, and these discussions have only got back to my step kids, in which they tell me to mind my own business, But their lifestyle is causing me my health with stomach issues. Where does it stop?
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