It's a real pickle to be in, and I hear your frustration, for sure. It is the curse of parenting that they feel the need to create such walls with their own children, instead of simply teaching young people about choices, and then respecting and trusting the choices they make. Many teens would make far better decisions than adults, and you definitely sound to have your wits about you, so this is a real shame, because simply demanding boundaries around you doesn't help you learn those boundaries for yourself.
At some (fast-approaching) point you will be old enough to make your own choices, without any input or limits from your parents, and the worst case scenario in building too many walls around a person is that, when they finally have freedom, they feel a sense of wanting to "make up for" all those times when they were unjustly held back from living. This can put someone at worse risk, because they were overly controlled.
In this way, this non-sense style of parenting very often blows up in the parents face, because, once the young person is free to act, they don't have the skills and experience in setting limits. It's the classic "Pastor's Kid" type of situation, where the child with the most rules is the most wild, because too much restriction and repression makes most people very fond of acting out, to compensate for the controls put on them.
It's even worse to add an element of unfairness, where you are subjected to different rules than siblings or treated "worse" because of being a girl. None of that leads to good things later in life. A gal I know was treated this way, and I told her parents she would wind up pregnant as a result. Sure enough, she is now expecting and is not at all ready to be a mother. So, it backfired, as it most often does. And, while I appreciate the effort of your parents to keep you safe, making you crazy in the meantime with no life of your own is unhealthy, so there is a down side to their efforts, for sure.
What to do? Well, in any situation, we have four options. Just live with it, as is, change it, leave it, or endure it and learn how to cope within it, until it changes or we can leave. For a minor, it may seem that there is only one option, to just be stuck where you are. But, it can be worth trying to change it, by simply presenting your frustrations and your feelings to your parents. Good parents will listen, and change. Stubborn parents locked into an "authoritarian" mode will not, and unfortunately your very wise thinking will then fall on deaf ears. If that is the case, then you must endure, but cope within the madness.
In coping, first, endure while KNOWING you are RIGHT in what you feel. Don't let anyone tell you your feelings are not valid, or say some idiotic thing that you are wrong because parents are always right, or you're wrong because you're young, or any other BS. A controlling style of parenting is NOT healthy, and it does NOT solve anything. You won't be under their roof forever, and this is just creating bad feelings in you, and between you and your folks, and setting you up to potentially even put yourself at risk once controls are finally gone. So, know that you're right and honor your feelings, because they are real.
Second, endure while keeping your head about you, both now, and when you are finally on your own, and away from their control. Don't let these feelings build up to the point of wanting to just have a blow out and be crazy to make up for lost time.
The dangers of the world are very real, and, yes, keeping you monitored my help you avoid some, but ultimately you will have to learn to navigate the world without a babysitter, and that means learning how to be our own best babysitter. That's made difficult without experience in choice making, so you are actually at somewhat of a disadvantage now because of living in a box that doesn't represent the real world. So, when the day comes when you can take risks, don't make up for it all at once. Know that you have been hurt in this area, by not getting the chance to feel free, so you'll have to be mindful not to cut loose too hard too fast, is my note of caution.
And, even now, don't let frustration cloud your judgment. There is a real element to the concern of your parents, and many 17 year old guys do (sadly) have only one thing on their mind in befriending a 14 year old who just wants some freedom. You don't need to be paranoid, or see evil around every corner, but don't let your own rules for your own safety become lax, simply because you're tired of being told you can't do anything. Stay safe and limit your risks always.
Third, always, always always remember this moment. Keep it in your heart and in your mind and vow to yourself that you will NEVER repeat this mistake to your own children, if you choose to be a mom in life. Remember what it is like to be unheard, to have your views be unimportant, to not feel trusted and respected, to be treated without fairness. Sadly, so many of us go on to repeat what was done to us, but you can break that cycle, and take a different and better parenting style into the lives of your own children.
Obviously, your safety is most important, but so is your sanity. There is a way to achieve safe living without virtual imprisonment. Your parents have not found that path. That is hurting you, and, unless they are willing to change, it will remain a block between you and your folks and it will cause harm. So, it's on you to heal and cope with their mistakes. It sounds like they are honestly just scared and paranoid and would rather risk you being miserable than face any risks in life, but that love is misguided, because their choices are hurting you, which is putting you at risk anyway.
There is a way to shelter and protect you, while keeping you sane and happy, and I hope they can change. Until then, it's up to you to cope and try your best to create some positive change. If they are not the sort to listen to you as a human being and respect your thoughts and feelings, then you might try less "threatening" steps of progress, to help them expand your limits.
Movie night with some girls your own age, even with parents along, or something like that. Yes, it would be annoying to you, I understand, but keep in mind that any sign of defiance from you is only going to result in your parents digging their heels in even more. So, cut them some slack, where you can, to help yourself. Not because they are right, but because you're being the "bigger" person to do what's best for you, and the old adage of getting more flies with honey than vinegar is true. In other words, work with them, because it will help you.
A babysat movie night is still a night out, and, if that goes well, then it becomes a reason for them to give a little more room. You might even suggest to them some "steps of progress" toward more independence for you. Offer to carry a personal alarm with you at all times. Offer to check in with them on an hourly basis when away from home. Work with them, as much as you can, and you might find they are more willing to relax.
Sounds like you will have to be the "adult" in the situation here, to try to bring sense to things, but you sound wise for your age so I'm confident you can do this. Hang in there!