ok, approach this problem like its a project and make getting sex drive your aim. Then put the work into it. Watch lots of porn esp. BDSM, torture, watersports, orgies, girl on girl, etc, talk dirty in dirty chat rooms, do some live cam, go on Omegle. become clued up on the subject, know everything there is to know about it. this way you familiarise yourself with it and this should make you warm to it a lot more. you will be ready for sex any time.