Married 3 years and have not had intercourse ?
My wife and I have been married 3 years and so far been unable to have real intercourse. We love each other and are attracted to each other, and regularly express that sexually.
However she is very uncomfortable and seizes up any time we attempt actual intercourse. We were both virgins when we got married, and she has only ever achieved orgasm without any vaginal penetration.
We've tried lubrication, many different positions, plenty of foreplay, using fingers, etc. Any penetration makes her tense and she says it hurts. I have even wondered if there's some kind of abuse in her past to cause that reaction, but I am assured there's not been.
I do not know what the next step is and we are both frustrated and discouraged by 3 years of off-and-on attempts with no progress. Does she need to go to a doctor? Do we need some kind of therapy? Is there something I can be doing to help her relax and not cause pain?
- 3 weeks ago
You need to head STRAIGHT TO A DIVORCE LAWYER A.S.A.P
NO MAN SHOULD HAVE TO ENDURE THAT KIND OF CRAP IN THEIR MARRIAGE... WAS SHE A MAIL ORDER BRIDE?
- River EuphratesLv 74 weeks ago
Assuming you aren't just trolling, she needed to talk to an obgyn and/or sex therapist a long time before now.
- KayleenRLv 74 weeks ago
You guys need to see a sex therapist
- geetarman56Lv 74 weeks ago
She may need a sex therapist.Source(s): me
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- JasmineLv 44 weeks ago
Yes take her to the doctor & figure out the next steps
- pit bulls biteLv 74 weeks ago
thats why everyone should have sex before marriage to learn these problems
- PatriciaLv 71 month ago
Lie... i was done reading this after the first half of the first sentence
- TavyLv 71 month ago
This is quite common, the more she tries the tighter it gets. She needs to see her Doctor, there are treatments to help.
- EvaLv 71 month ago
She should see a doctor and perhaps a therapist. It's hard to determine at this point if the problem is physical or mental.
- 1 month ago
Seeing a doctor would be very sensible, she can ask why she is experiencing the pain and discomfort.