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Anonymous asked in HealthWomen's Health · 1 month ago

Married 3 years and have not had intercourse ?

My wife and I have been married 3 years and so far been unable to have real intercourse. We love each other and are attracted to each other, and regularly express that sexually.

However she is very uncomfortable and seizes up any time we attempt actual intercourse. We were both virgins when we got married, and she has only ever achieved orgasm without any vaginal penetration. 

We've tried lubrication, many different positions, plenty of foreplay, using fingers, etc. Any penetration makes her tense and she says it hurts. I have even wondered if there's some kind of abuse in her past to cause that reaction, but I am assured there's not been. 

I do not know what the next step is and we are both frustrated and discouraged by 3 years of off-and-on attempts with no progress. Does she need to go to a doctor? Do we need some kind of therapy? Is there something I can be doing to help her relax and not cause pain?

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  • 3 weeks ago

    You need to head  STRAIGHT TO A DIVORCE LAWYER A.S.A.P 

    NO MAN SHOULD HAVE TO ENDURE THAT KIND OF CRAP IN THEIR MARRIAGE... WAS SHE A MAIL ORDER BRIDE?

  • 4 weeks ago

    Assuming you aren't just trolling, she needed to talk to an obgyn and/or sex therapist a long time before now.

  • 4 weeks ago

    You guys need to see a sex therapist

  • 4 weeks ago

    She may need a sex therapist.

    Source(s): me
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  • 4 weeks ago

    Yes take her to the doctor & figure out the next steps 

  • 4 weeks ago

    thats why everyone should have sex before marriage to learn these problems

  • 1 month ago

    Lie... i was done reading this after the first half of the first sentence

  • Tavy
    Lv 7
    1 month ago

    This is quite common, the more she tries the tighter it gets. She needs to see her Doctor, there are treatments to help.

  • Eva
    Lv 7
    1 month ago

    She should see a doctor and perhaps a therapist. It's hard to determine at this point if the problem is physical or mental.

  • 1 month ago

    Seeing a doctor would be very sensible, she can ask why she is experiencing the pain and discomfort. 

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