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Anonymous asked in Family & RelationshipsWeddings · 8 months ago

Is 17 months and counting too long of an engagement?

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    Lv 7
    8 months ago
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    No. I was engaged for 2.5 years and married for 40.5 years so something must have worked out ok. ;-) Do people still get engaged today? I thought they just lived together, it was called in my day LIVING OVER THE BRUSH. ;-)

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      Lv 5
      8 months agoReport

      in my day and from where I am it's called "Common Law" if your unmarried but living together

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  • 8 months ago

    Well after 2 years if he hasnt brought up the topic I'd move on.

    If by chance you're living together with benefits he may never ask...why would he?

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  • 8 months ago

    If you think it is, then it is.

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  • Anonymous
    8 months ago

    Honestly that seems like a long time.  If I was in your family or you were in mine rather I would assume you're not going to get married to this one. I wouldn't tell though...never mess in other's business only on Yahoo.  Good Luck.

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  • Alan H
    Lv 7
    8 months ago

    Usually not.   Much depends on the circumstances.   Real love is always patient 

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  • 8 months ago

    Definitely not.  I had made a lifelong commitment to my wife at 19. But we were unable to start a normal married life at the time.  We announced our engagement so that everyone knew our intentions.  Two and a half years later we were married.  Being married was only a small step along the path.  But the time of the engagement allowed for the POSSIBILITY that we might change our mind as we grew.  We didn't change our mind and five decades of wonderful life together has indicated that we must have done something right.

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  • 8 months ago

    check "Foofa"'s answer...as usual, she's right.  But without learning any of the details,its hard for me to say.

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  • Foofa
    Lv 7
    8 months ago

    Traditionally an engagement lasts for 12 months. But as long as you're actively planning the wedding and the delay is due to scheduling rather than cold feet that's not the end of the world. It's when "engagements" drag on for years and years that people begin to suspect no wedding will actually ever happen.

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  • 8 months ago

    Depends. Is it 17 months of a planned period, or is it 17 months without setting a date? If it's the latter, you're probably never going to get married. 

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  • Helen
    Lv 7
    8 months ago

    No, it's about average.

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