How do you forgive a person Who mistreated you?
- BarfingWhaleLv 78 months agoFavorite Answer
you need to be willing to forgive them OVER TIME it's not something that will happen over night it takes time. IF you are not willing to forgive them at all they should expect that as well and you should just learn to move on. if in the future you decide you can forgive them then that is always better to do so later versus never. so yes it's possible either way you look at it it just varies on the person.
before my mom passed away my dad was VERY strict on us especially me because im the only son but also the youngest. forcing me to have to work with him since a young age, etc.. to him it was "okay to do " but nothing is okay when your yelling at your own son in front of strangers calling him "stupid" and this and that. no idea why my dad is like this tbh i think because his dad was like that to him and so he thinks it's okay to do the same or maybe he is afraid we will end up like his siblings.
he started to mellow down a little especially when he stops drinking but even now after my mom passed he still gets angry from time to time for silly stuff. just the other day he yelled at my sister for trying to help him obviously it was out of frustration but even so people can take it the wrong way. for us though we are all old and accepted the fact that yea possibility our mom could pass away from cancer and that my dad is struggling to cope with things not necessarily financial wise but emotionally. this is why i always tend to forgive him because yea he gets angry time to time says shet that you really shouldn't say to your own kids in general but at the end of it all we know he just means well plus i don't want that burden on my shoulders if he passed away that he felt he was a failure to his own kids. i've met MANY people like that who did wrong to their own kids/who's parents did wrong to them and they are just emotionally fked because they couldn't learn to forgive themselves or their parents. these people are older then me btw.
for me im used to it though like yea he has been yelling at me since i was a kid so it's easiest for me. for my sisters though who are older then me he barely yells at them but they have a harder time to forgive him. ironically i work in a field where i get yelled at sometimes unprofessionally but it's seen as "okay" in this field but everytime im just like "meh.." because i've had it worse from my dad none of these people can yell at me as bad as he has over the years.
im pretty sure though that it has everything to do with his family like how his dad treated him, how his brother is today ( mentally ill due to drug use ), how his sisters are ( broke, leeching off his parents, unsuccessful ), and how he is the oldest and most successful in life compared to them but yet his dad still treated him like shet and taken it out on us sometimes as well because he was jealous.
my dad is probably the only person i'd forgive like this though. anyone else outside of my immediate family that i consider family can fk off. i cut ties like nothing i don't need that unnecessary bullshet in my life.
- Midnight BluesLv 78 months ago
I don't forgive people like that. I put them behind me and move on.
- daljack -a girlLv 78 months ago
Forgive doesn't mean forget. You forgive them and move on with your life.
- Anonymous8 months ago
If they say sorry or change their behavior I forgive them 🤗
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- Calamity JayneyLv 78 months ago
Whether the person has asked for forgiveness or not you need time to come to terms with what happened and when you are ready you may feel you can forgive them. Forgiveness doesn’t cause you to forget what happened however and you will have to realize that at times you may relive the trauma.
- Aril DaineLv 68 months ago
by letting go of the anger and grudges that you've keep in your heart. forgetting those bad memories and things he had wrongfully done to you.. only then you will find forgiveness and peace of mind. Karma will get into that person eventually. so just live a good life with positivity.🐰🐇🌺
- JamieLv 78 months ago
Just move on and try to have a life and these people fade away . Could be complicated finding forgiveness .
- Anonymous8 months ago
no,**** me I hate myself damn me hope I burn I suffer I deserve itSource(s): pls report me pls hate me too pls hurt me pls😢
- KathyLv 78 months ago
It is going to be hard to do, but it can be done. Give yourself some time to heal.
- 8 months ago
Forgiveness is not really ever about the other person. It's about you and letting go so you're not a pent up with negativity and hostility.