Anonymous asked in TravelAsia PacificPhilippines · 9 months ago

Is it always a red flag if a lady asks you for money?

Hello, I was wondering if it's always a red flag if a Filipina (or any other woman overseas) asks for money or some form of financial assistance. This is after you've met her and you both decide you are committed to each other. I am well aware that it is part of their culture that they take care of the parents and family. I know it's a red flag if they ask for money right away, especially shortly after you've met her and gone back home. But is it always bad? Any acceptable time period before you can help her out? 

Let's say she's working but she doesn't earn much. If you two are committed, isn't it fair to help her out of she needs it? I mean, guys go into these relationships with very unequal socioeconomic between the two.

7 Answers

  • 9 months ago
    Favorite Answer

    The answer is a definite yes. This is nothing more but an outright scam. Anytime a Filipina asks you for money upfront, this is a very big red flag that must always be taken seriously. She's setting you up to be scammed. Never give her not one cent of your money. This is the time you end all further contact with her ASAP. Remember when you don't give her anything, the scamming attempt against you will be thwarted. She can move onto her next unlucky target to scam.

    Keep in mind most Filipinas wouldn't ask you for money at all, but a very small number of them do that. All they want is your love and understanding when starting a relationship with them. It's people like her who give all other women an extremely bad rap when it comes to these scams.

    You can still find true love online, but use your common sense and pay attention to this and many other warning signs of a romance scammer waiting to strike.

  • RICK
    Lv 7
    4 months ago

    That depends on your relationship with the girl

    My Filipina wife and I have been married for almost 44 years, I can count on 1 hand the number of times she has asked for money and almost all of those involved getting her Visa all those many years ago

  • 4 months ago

    Not  necessarily, I have been with my Filipina wife for nearly 9 years now. We met when I was working there and we have lived in Europe now for 5 years. Not that long after we were together I started giving her modest amounts of money, quite simply she had hardly any spending money for herself after bills etc and I wanted to treat her. As you rightly pointed out "these relationships with very unequal socioeconomic between the two". As long as she is not demanding, or you end up paying her bills for her and her family (often happens) then it's not necessarily a red flag.


  • Anonymous
    9 months ago

    Yes.  Run if they ask for money.

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  • 9 months ago


    Tell her you want to move to her country and not sponsor her for immigration to your country. You will also renounce your current citizenship so even your children will only be citizens of her country. See how many seconds it takes for her to drop you. 

  • 9 months ago

    Maybe, maybe not. Do you watch 90 Day Fiancee? Some of the people from other countries do seem to be out for money and the green card. But there are also some very happy couples. In one case, the bride was from Thailand. Her family did expect a dowry that was more than the men could afford, but they worked something out, and the couple is still married two years later, and they seem very happy. 

  • 9 months ago

    YES. I really don't understand why so many people are looking for friends and relationships overseas when there are plenty of people in your home country.  There's so many scams out there!

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