Kathy asked in Social SciencePsychology · 8 months ago

What's the difference between "get on with your life" & "get over it"?

Bob was involved in an unexpected car accident as a small child. Someone he was close to was killed in it so it's still affecting him as an adult. He may be suffering from PTSD. Of course, he has brought it up to his therapist. When he explains to Jane about it, she replies, "Get over it!" Bob has replied after that response of hers that it's an insensitive thing to say & that it doesn't help. So now she replies, "Get on with your life" whenever he discusses that topic with her.

What would be the difference between *get over it* & *get on with your life*?


Would "get on with your life" be less offensive than "get over it?"

5 Answers

  • 8 months ago
    Favorite Answer

    Both are equally insensitive. Therapist should have said that everyone in a downward spiral will see the worst in ambiguity. And will focus on anything that is unresolved as a focal point to blame their downward spiral on.

    Ultimately to be emotionless and move on until the person is happy enough to see things in a positive frame of mind is the best but... If you're explaining this to someone in a downward spiral then you have to be exact and confirm they understand.

  • 8 months ago

    It's just more offensive saying "get over it".

  • Jen
    Lv 4
    8 months ago

     Get on with your life means keep moving forward, don’t stop and get over it means move on, forget it and stop talking about it..it’s annoying. There you go...

  • Anonymous
    8 months ago

    How would you interpret 'suck it up Snowflake'?

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  • 8 months ago

    OK, first, Jane is not his therapist. He needs to stop thinking he can rely on other random people to help him with his problem.  Second, "Get over it!" means forget about it. "Get on with your life" means, yes that was awful, but you'll do better if you don't let it paralyze you but move on." Most of us have hurts and traumas in our lives- some more serious than others, obviously- but we can get on with our lives without completely "getting over" what happened to us. 

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