Drea asked in Society & CultureEtiquette · 9 months ago

Is this text rude? Or am I overthinking?

Honestly, I don't care if you cancel plans. I understand things come up. And I've had to cancel plans too in the past. But it's how you do it that matters. I texted my friend to see if she was still hanging out with me and all I get is a text with the words "no". I have a tendency to overthink things but isn't this kind of rude? Usually when I cancel I'll say something like "Sorry I can't hang out" or "No but maybe later." But just saying "no" in my mind is like saying "no screw you." This is why I HATE texting. Because some things come off wrong and it's hard to tell so my mind gets to over analyzing. 

6 Answers

  • Anonymous
    9 months ago
    Favorite Answer

    Some people (like you & I) may give a reason for the no.

    Some people just give short answers, they hate long texts.

    Agree texting is easily misinterpreted.

    Agree courtesy is largely gone now, but 

    you cannot change how they respond, maybe ask them why next time you see them if you want to know more.

    Add: I also overthink texts.

  • Pearl
    Lv 7
    9 months ago

    it sounds like its rude

  • Anonymous
    9 months ago

    Some people aren't attached to their phones all day.  Perhaps she was in the middle of something and all she could text is "no."  If this bothers you, let her text you when she wants to do something.  Whether you accept the invite is up to you.

  • 9 months ago

    See, this is why texting can be problematic. Why not just CALL HER and ask?

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  • 9 months ago

    Have a look back through her other texts and see if giving short answers is the norm. People like you and I tend to compose a reply that includes a reason, not everyone does this. To others, a quick and simple response is what matters. 

  • 9 months ago

    Not rude. You are forgetting you asked a straight forward yes or no question. had she said yes, you wouldn't be demanding her to add anything to the word, so you can't reasonably expect her to add words to a "no".

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