Should i allow my gf to go to bars with her friends? What to do?
I just want to start off by saying my ex gf cheated on me and she met the guy at a bar. I didn't find out until months later. I immediately dumped her. She lied and said he only came over and they didn't do nothing just solbering up. He told me months later and showed me pictures since we are in the same fraternity but different colleges. If it were not for this i would have never even known. I immediately dumped her. It was a one night stand. Should my current gf be allowed to go to bars. It is bascially modern day mating grounds. She wouldn't like it if me and my friends went to bars full of women. Good looking women as well. I can cheat so easilly. Should i just get laid as much as i can while i am young i feel like what is the point of being a good person if everyone i meet are whores stuck to that bar life.
- 9 months agoFavorite Answer
Don’t project your past on your current situation. Your current girlfriend is a different person than your ex was so just because your ex cheated doesn’t mean she will... have some trust/faith in your relationship otherwise break up with your girlfriend and stay single .. no girl needs their current boyfriend projecting problems for their past on them.. those are YOUR problems not hers don’t punish her for it
- Just MoparLv 69 months ago
The saying goes.."Shame on you if you get me once shame on ME if you get me twice. She has shown she cannot be trusted. If it were me she would have been permately out of my life the first time. Time to move on.
- Carolynn MLv 69 months ago
There are good looking people all over the place, men and women alike. So what? Just because someone looks good it doesn't mean you're compatible with them, or your girlfriend is, or that anyone is going to hurl themselves at you or her for sex. I'm not sure why people have some idea this is happening constantly.
And you can't "ALLOW" your girlfriend to go to a bar or not. If she wants to, she will. If not, she won't. You're not her daddy and she's not twelve years old. She's your girlfriend, not your possession.
There's something wrong with you.
- FoofaLv 79 months ago
It isn’t about trying to infantilize a grown adult by controlling them but rather only dating people who share your feelings on such things. It’s fair tell someone you won’t go to bars without them and ask for the same courtesy. But if someone has a mind to do this you can’t stop them. A lot of women would tell you sod right off if you did.
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- ImpLv 59 months ago
Women who are committed and go to bars cheat. Tell her you don't commit to girls who go to bars and stay firm on it "you don't trust me" is what you can expect to hear. She has every right to go to bars with her friends, you also have the right to break things off!
- sianLv 49 months ago
If you're the sort of guy who allows or disallows your gf to do things, I hope she gives up on you.
- StanleyLv 69 months ago
What's the point of being a good person? I mean there is a God you know. Also I use to play music in bars before God changed my life. I wouldn't go to a bar and I definatly wouldn't want my lady to be at a bar. When people drink and get drunk they cheat allot of the time.
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