Why do women deny hypergamy when it is so obvious?
Men are usually okay marrying their equal, while women usually want men who make more money, more education, more social status etc.
- Common SenseLv 71 month agoFavorite Answer
Hypergamy is a form of gynocentrism. Gynocentrism has been the norm and so accepted that people don't stop to think or complain about this gender bias. Society tends to focus on gender biases when women are under represented or taken advantage of, not the reverse. Nobody gives it a second thought that women are given lighter criminal sentencing, that women are exempt from selective service, that women owned businesses are advantaged, etc. Favoritism for women is just so accepted, almost nobody considers how biased it is.
So, hypergamy like other gynocentric practice is just accepted without thought. People will think nothing of a female nurse marrying a male doctor but of course, the opposite would be noticed. Heck, most people don't even know what hypergamy means, they've give it such little thought.
Feminists of course have an even bigger reason to deny hypergamy and gynocentrism in general. Their agenda of winning entitlements for female is dependent on selling the illusion women are oppressed victims. Hypergamy and other gynocentric practices don't fit their agenda.
- 1 month ago
Women want men with a high sex drive,prowess and status by nature. The money thing is made up it just kinda falls into that with society. Of course women need and desire a wealthy powerful man,but they also need stability this takes time. Men aren't picky at all and will go for multiple partners the more the better,the higher the status the better it's because men do the chasing women are just on the shelf for the picking. It's a competition between men and a buffet of sort so dig in we aren't picky. No matter who the Female is though one thing remains constant they need protection,wealth falls into this now and if it didn't they would seek fertility and height a sign of status which they still do regardless of income.
- 1 month ago
melanie trump. How about we learn from our grandparents and just marry for love.
- Green BrickLv 71 month ago
That's so sterotypical and sexist
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- ️️️️️️️️️️️️️️️Lv 71 month ago
agree with the best answer
- 1 month ago
why not marry an eg? thye're not so bad
- lizLv 71 month ago
There are plenty of people in relationships where the man no longer earns as much as the woman. There was a time when that was not the norm however. In those times it would have been difficult for women to find men whose earnings were on a level with their own. If it’s still the case that men consistently earn more than their partners, then it points to the existence of a gender wage gap. And such a wage gap is usually denied by people in this forum. But hey, maybe it’s real.
Perhaps women don’t like to dwell on the fact that men may be happy to “marry down”. Isn’t it disappointing to think that men have no expectations, beyond perhaps a preference for boob size ? Most women understand that a man’s future earnings and financial stability are significant, especially when those women want to raise children without living on the breadline. When, or if, maternity leave and maternity pay regulations are reasonable, then the man’s earning power would be less of an issue.
On the other hand, there are women who believe dating is a market place and people have free will to pick and choose who they date/ marry. Aside from arranged marriages, which are very uncommon in the west, men and women should be able to make their own choices without criticism and judgement from others.
- ElanaLv 71 month ago
Yeah, feminists do tend to deny it. They don't really understand the implications of "if you're going to marry, would it hurt to marry a doctor?" (not even understanding that being a doctor isn't all that lucrative any more).
But "so obvious" does not actually mean something is true.
If you're going to make the argument that they shouldn't deny it, you should actually provide evidence that it is true, not use the "it's obvious" non-argument.
After all, the Earth is flat - it's obvious. Space is filled with Ether. It has to be ... etc etc. Think of all the things that we have thought were obvious for thousands of years that turn out to not be true.
Use actual data or get run over by people who do.
- FoofaLv 71 month ago
Please do cite these men who are "okay with marrying their equal". There's just as much "hypergamy" in the male population (of incels and neckbeards demanding supermodels) as there is amongst the female population. But the fact remains that if you marry a gold digger, whether that person is male or female, you'll be paying for it for life. So choose carefully.
- AnonLv 41 month ago
I’ll get you a broom for your sweeping statements