my fiancé want to postpone wedding date because all his family won't be able to make it. I have change twice it already. parents are coming?
- TrishLv 51 month ago
Try to wait until everyone gets vaccinated depending on whenever they find a vaccine...then maybe WHO will decide you can have gatherings so you can choose a date when your fiance's family and friends can attend.
- JerryLv 71 month ago
A lot of people are postponing weddings due to covid. Join the club.
Some information about the history of marriage customs might help you evaluate some alternatives to what we're most familiar with.
Traditionally, after the vow exchange the bride's family hosted an event to introduce their new daughter (in-law) to their relatives and close friends. Then after the wedding journey (honeymoon) when the couple went to live in the groom's hometown his family hosted an event to introduce their new son (in-law) to their own relatives and close friends.
The way these after marrying parties got the name "receptions" is from the root word "to receive." To say "we do not receive McGee" was to say that McGee is not welcome in ones home, that one does not recognize McGee socially, that one shuns and will have nothing to do with McGee.
To officially receive a newcomer was a big deal. So giving a reception for someone was a big deal, an event to welcome a newcomer into the family and social group. Thus it came about that each family gave a reception for the newcomer.
It could also happen that other friends or relatives living in other areas, traveling in other social circles, would also host receptions to introduce the new in-law to that circle as well. A new bride or new groom often had quite the round of receptions to attend, quite a few "this is your official welcome to the group" events.
The point is that you needn't feel uncomfortable about choosing to have multiple receptions, multiple celebrations, one for each family. When the two families are far apart this may be the best option. That's the way it was done in a past time when, like today, travelling could be very burdensome, even impossible.
Whatever you two work out, congrats and best wishes.
- sunshine_melLv 71 month ago
If your family couldn't make it, i assume you'd want to change it so they could. Not unreasonable.
- Anonymous1 month ago
don't marry the guy then. you two obviously can't come to a compromise and you're the only one bending backwards to accommodate to him, he's not respecting you nor making any effort
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- MikeLv 51 month ago
So what is your question?
- 1 month ago
Due to covid 19, unless you can have large gatherings of people, it would be a good idea to postpone it until every one can safely attend your wedding.