Anonymous asked in Pregnancy & ParentingPregnancy · 4 weeks ago

If motherhood begins@conception & fatherhood begins@birth, will the dad not have to drop out of school if conception was@end of junior year?

... or will he not have time for school, due to going with baby’s mother to various appointments and such?  In essence, they will be parents by the time he’s only three months away from graduation.   But will the conception prevent him from beginning his senior year?

12 Answers

  • Edna
    Lv 7
    3 weeks ago

    Motherhood and fatherhood begin when the baby is born. That's when they become the parents of a child; not when the child is conceived or during pregnancy.

     Most expectant fathers don't attend prenatal doctor visits with a wife/girlfriend. There's no reason for him to do so. He'll just be driving her back and forth to the doctor visits - but he doesn't even need to do that; she's perfectly capable of driving herself to the doctor. The father has to stay in the waiting room and read an out-of-date magazine while the doctor is examining his wife/girlfriend. The doctor will be examining HER; not HIM. She's the one who's pregnant; not him. The doctor won't see him during her prenatal visits, nor will the doctor come out of his office and talk with him afterward. 

    Nor do most fathers accompany their wife/girlfriend to the baby's routine medical appointments in the months after birth. Again - there's no reason for him to do so. The doctor will be examining the child - not him. The doctor isn't interested in the father - the doctor is interested only in the health of the child.


    The conception and birth of a child won't prevent the father from beginning and completing his Senior year in high school. The birth of a child won't physically affect him at all, or prevent him from doing anything he wants to do. If anybody has to drop out of school, it will probably be the mother. She's the one who will have to provide the physical care for the child during the school year when she would normally be attending classes - not him.

  • 4 weeks ago

    well  i can tell by your question you never past the third grade  

  • 4 weeks ago

    Why would anyone have to drop out of school? There are plenty of young parents who manage to finish high school while expecting a child and then parenting a child. There's no reason for either of them to give up on high school. 

  • Anonymous
    4 weeks ago

    Fatherhood DOES NOT MEAN dropping everything in their life and spending 24/7 with the child.

    In fact - fatherhood means doing everything possible to ensure that the child will be well supported and well cared for.  That means STAYING IN SCHOOL and getting the degree that will lead to getting a better paying job to support the family.

    A GOOD father balances time for work (and/or school) and time for spending with his children.  This could mean working their job (or taking their classes) all day and then spending some time each evening playing with the child.   

    SMART parents schedule their appointments around their work and school schedules or plan to be able to miss (EXCUSED ABSENCE) for certain medical appointments or needs.  You DO NOT need to drop out of your life to raise a baby.  These kinds of appointments DO NOT happen often enough to need to drop out of everything to take care of what is needed.  

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  • L
    Lv 4
    4 weeks ago

    Motherhood does NOT begin at conception - the gender of the baby does!  Motherhood and Fatherhood is just a word for having and raising children.

    Anyway, the baby's gender is determined at conception by the male sperm.

    When the baby is born - it is either a MALE or a FEMALE - NOTHING ELSE.

  • edward
    Lv 7
    4 weeks ago

    My best friend was a father at 17, he got his girlfriend pregnant at 16, father at 17.  They finished high school, on time, with everyone else.  Now...that being said, my friends had a private physician who could see them at night and on weekends.  They had help from parents and friends...i’m not saying it’s impossible but it isn’t likely

  • MissA
    Lv 7
    4 weeks ago

    Why should it?

    Attendance at some or all of a partner's obstetrician appointments is NOT a full-time job.  And generally people who are becoming parents should really try very hard to complete their educations... it can make the difference between comfort and poverty for the new family.

    There are often school programs designed to help young parents do this.  Ask your guidance counselor about what your school offers.

  • sarah
    Lv 5
    4 weeks ago

    As far as I'm concerned, fatherhood begins at conception, too, and neither one of the expectant parents should drop out of school at conception or at birth. It's 2020; the vast majority of schools have accepted that teen pregnancy happens and have ways of working with expectant/new parents to ensure that they are still able to graduate.

    In the beginning, the mother will only have doctor's appointments every month or two (unless she's considered high risk for some reason). Even as the due date gets closer, the appointments are only once a week. Going to the doctor with the mother will hardly hinder the father's ability to stay in school.

  • 4 weeks ago

    Neither the mother nor the father should drop out of high school.

    Most high schools will work with the students to ensure they can complete their education.

  • 4 weeks ago

    No matter when conception or birth is he needs to finish school and whether he returns for senior year is a decision him and the babys mum needs to decide as someone needs to support the girl and baby and he doesn't need to go to various appointments with the girl if he is concentrating on his education. - he obviously didn't learn much during sex education if he is a teen dad.

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