Ducky
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Ducky asked in Family & RelationshipsFriends · 5 months ago

My friend is mad at me. Could you please help me understand why what I said was wrong?

Her: I like Simple Plan's What's New Scooby Doo for the tv show back then

Me: I'll have to check that out

Her: You don't have to check things out just because I mention them o.o

Me: Why can't I check it out?

Her: I never said you couldn't. Forget it.

Me: I like to check things out that others like, it's how I found some good books, movies tv shows...

Her: And that's honestly what you could have said but you asked why you couldn't , as if I had told you I had a problem with it, when I didn't You just always say you will check everything out that I mention to you (that you don't already know) and I was politely letting you know that it's okay if you don't. That is all

I'm not sure why she got upset. I don't even get her saying I don't have to. Why even mention that? I know I don't have to check something out. And it seems like it bothered her or why would she say it? And I worded it is Why can't I check it out because it sounded like she was saying she didn't mention it for me to listen to it. I'm not good at social skills so please help? 

Update:

Penelope: I hope not. I only met her in April! 

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  • 5 months ago
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    Well, you have now asked over 1,373 questions. This one is a tempest in a teapot, in other words, much ado over nothing. Next time, if you continue, please include your age and gender. You sound very young, I'd guess about twelve.  If you are indeed older than this, you need to do some catching up on maturing, if you are to become a reasonable and self sufficient adult by the time you actually become one. Time to pay more attention to this, rather than the scenario you described here.

  • Anonymous
    5 months ago

    Sounds like she might have had something bothering her before you had this conversation. Maybe talk to her and see if everything is alright but DONT TRY TO DEFEND YOURSELF OR MAKE IT HER FAULT!! Try to be an understanding friend... maybe even apologize for the situation. It might spark an apology out of her too.

  • Liz
    Lv 6
    5 months ago

    I'm sorry but the whole conversation sound very juvenile to me. 

  • 5 months ago

    She sounds rather sensitive.  But you possibly ALWAYS say that you'll check things out which - if you do it rather a lot - probably is very irritating.  That conversation sounds a little stupid to me.  Just stop saying you'll 'check it out' all the time.  You can still check things out - but just don't talk about it.  You don't have to tell your friends every minute detail of your life.  Try it and see if she lightens up.  You may have got into the habit of saying it too much.

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  • Anonymous
    5 months ago

    she seems like she does not have social skills either and she really, really, really does not like u. it takes 2 to argue - one to argue and one to say something back. seems like both of u bring the worst out of each other. when she said u didn't need to check out everything u say u could have said "but i want to, i like check out things people like", instead u became defensive with your why couldn't i and she does not like your personality, because a normal friend would just let the remark slip, instead she started an argument about how she does not like smth in u. see? takes 2 to argue

  • 5 months ago

    Sounds to me like she was either in a bad mood, or your getting on her nerves.  Not many friendships last forever, maybe yours is on the way out.

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