J asked in Pregnancy & ParentingParenting · 2 months ago

How to help my 4 year old kid to integrate into school system?

hi, my 4 year old kid just started school. He is very friendly when it comes to playing with older kids who are 4-5 years older than him. He freezes when he sees a bunch of kids his age and will totally restrain from participating in group activities like climbing climbers, slides or any activity where his classmates are around. If he is alone, he is ok. We are unable to figure out how to help him overcome his fears. When asked to do lego, he disappeared into the washroom. If anyone out there could overcome similar situations with their kids, please share your experiences. thank you.

2 Answers

  • LizB
    Lv 7
    2 months ago
    Favorite Answer

    Just give him time to get used to his new environment, there's no need to push him into being social. Some kids (and people in general) are "observers." They need time to get comfortable and familiar with their surroundings before they feel secure with immersing themselves. Some kids only need a few minutes, other kids a few days, some even need several weeks. If your kid is one of those who takes a while, that's okay. There's nothing wrong with that, it's just his little personality.

    Besides, he's really young yet. "Cooperative" play, where kids are actually playing *with* each other as opposed to just near each other, tends to start in the later toddler/early preschool years... aka, the age your son is now. For him, the idea of playing *with* the other kids is still kind of a new concept, and he just might not be quite ready yet. But a lot can change in a few months, so have some patience. In the meantime, encourage your little observer to just be himself, and continue to quietly observe if that's what he wants to do. He'll explore and join in when he's ready.

  • 2 months ago

    You don't need to do anything to "integrate" your child into the school system. He's very young and having a lot of new experiences. Just like you did, he will adjust on his own. Just be patient and allow him time to adapt.

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