Telling an employee of a business where you’re a regular that you’ve been thinking about her: inappropriate?
Did I cross a line here?
I am a member of a private club and am a regular. The staff knows the members and we know the staff, as acquaintances. They are wonderful.
The club closed due to coronavirus and just reopened. I went back and saw one of my favorite staff members. I told her that I was glad to see her, glad that she was back and that I had just been thinking about her. That’s true; I had- I was hoping that she was OK and hadn’t lost her job.
Was I out of line? I’m a guy and we are acquaintances. But she recognized me even with a face mask.
Thanks, everyone. I certainly was not hitting on her and am embarrassed if she thought that I was. I guess from now on I just say “nice to see you” and nothing more?
- Anonymous3 weeks agoFavorite Answer
Adding on you have been thinking about her was a bit much. Sounds like you were hitting on her.
- FireplaceLv 63 weeks ago
YES. It is inappropriate. A lawyer did that to me at the law library where I worked. We were not friends, we were only acquainted through the legal profession and I was always extremely uncomfortable around him after that, and so was he because he could tell his words were unwelcome.
- bluebellbkkLv 73 weeks ago
It's fine, as long as you didn't linger over the conversation.
You are over-thinking this.
- Anonymous3 weeks ago
Only if the staff member has a problem with it.
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- linkus86Lv 73 weeks ago
No, not at all. It would have been different if you has inferred you had been thinking about her in a romantic sense, but perfectly acceptable to show concern for her health and professional life.