As a parent of a child with ADHD should you consistently remind them of what to do all day, or motivate them to think of it on their own?

Just curious what everyone’s thoughts are on a few things. With a child with ADHD do you think it’s more beneficial to consistently remind them of things (like go brush your teeth, now brush your hair, grab your lunch kit and put it in your backpack) and go step by step, or attempt to get the child to think more for themselves, (please get ready for the day)? Almost like one direction for a multitude of tasks to get them thinking about what needs to be completed?

3 Answers

  • 3 hours ago

    Have them make a list they can read and check off.

    Stop talking

    Jobs not done no video games, no tv...

    A check list on the door, prep the night befor.

    The more you let go and let them fail on occasion they will remember and learn.

    I never learned a thing when a parent said get your coat. The day i forgot my coat was the day i learned i needed to remember coat.

  • Anonymous
    2 months ago

    as kids with ADHD have problems focusing on doing something then the only way they will get normal things done is by reminding them to do it all the time - many kids do grow out of ADHD in time

  • 2 months ago

    Um, no, in fact, that's likely a sure-fire way to wind up with a very dysregulated and frustrated child. Kids are all different and those with ADHD are going to have different a unique symptom profile. My son who has ADHD (along with bipolar disorder, anxiety, and a neurodevelopmental disorder) would lose his **** if someone was standing over him barking directions all day. My goal is not a drone, my goal is to teach life skills so he can regulate himself emotionally and be on task in a way that makes sense for him. We have used various forms of reminders and prompts throughout his life, as his development has changed. At one point he had a laminated task strip in the shower to help him remember all the steps (turn on water, wet hair, get shampoo, etc, etc)... after a few months, he no longer needed it and continues to be capable of remembering those steps. But, yeah, a lot of people with neurological disorders like ADHD are going to find constant verbal input more of a challenge than a help. 

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