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Anonymous asked in HealthMental Health · 2 months ago

How to stop feeling lonely? ?

I’m 25 years old. I have avoidant personality disorder. I don’t have friends and never had a boyfriend. 

18 Answers

  • 2 months ago

    Why do people feel lonely?

    Because loneliness is so common, it makes sense that there are also lots and lots of different reasons why people feel lonely. Here are a few of the main ones:• Feeling distant from friends. Ever felt like even though all of your friends are one tap of a button away, you’re still not really connected to them? Don’t worry: this is a very common feeling.• Being single. Perhaps you’ve recently gone through a breakup, or maybe you’ve never had a romantic relationship. Either way, even though finding a meaningful relationship takes time, for some people, being single makes them feel like they’ll never find love.• Not fitting in. Maybe you have different interests from the people at your school. Or maybe you just dress differently. In any case, feeling like you don’t fit can make the symptoms of loneliness even worse, and can mean it’s even more difficult to meet friends and feel connected.• Looking after a parent or sibling. Being the primary carer for someone close to you who is sick or has a disability can often make you feel like you have the weight of the world on your shoulders. After all, a lot of your friends won’t know what it’s like to have a brother with Down’s syndrome, or a mother with bipolar, so being a carer can leave you feeling like you can’t really talk to people – let alone have them over for dinner or a sleepover.How normal is it to feel lonely?Recent research from ReachOut has shown that one in five young people reported feeling lonely most of the time' or 'always'.So just because you’re feeling lonely, it doesn’t mean that you are different or ‘weird’: in fact, it means that you have more in common with the people around you than you realize.Disability, illness, racism, and lonelinessSometimes loneliness can be caused by something else going on in our lives. Here are some of the major issues which can cause loneliness:• Mental illness. A lot of mental illnesses like bipolar, anxiety, and depression can all make people feel very lonely. Mental illness can make you anxious about seeing others, so you might spend more time indoors. Or it can lead to insomnia, which in turn can make you tired, irritable, and lonely.• Disability. A range of disabilities can often make people feel as though there is no one around them that cares. These feelings can get even worse if people in public are unkind or rude, and facing daily discrimination can make loneliness even harder to bear.• Racism. People who encounter racism say that being discriminated against can make them feel alone, and can make it harder for them to form real connections. Racism takes a lot of forms, all of them hurtful, so sometimes even a ‘minor’ or ‘casual’ act of racism can have big impacts on someone’s self-esteem.When do people feel lonely?Loneliness can hit anyone at any time. Sometimes you might not even feel lonely for an obvious reason, and what you’re experiencing could always be connected to other things like depression or anxiety.But it's true that a lot of people tend to feel lonely during big life events. Maybe you’re moving house. Maybe your parents are getting separated. Maybe you’re going from primary school into high school. Or maybe you just feel like you’ve outgrown your friendship group, or that they’re starting to get into things that don’t really interest you.All of these things could be making you feel lonely and lost, and you might find it hard to connect with people around you.How do you manage loneliness?There’s no single way to fight loneliness: if there was, everybody would be using it! But that doesn’t mean that loneliness is impossible to beat, or that if you’re feeling it now you will be forever. Here are a few quick dot points that cover some of the ways you can start feeling more at peace with the people in your life:• Talk to people you trust about how you feel.• Think about your interests and hang out with like-minded people (check out your school or local community center to see if there are any groups you might like).• Get a pet or try pet minding.• Get online and play a game or check out our Forums.• Say yes to any social invitations that might come your way.• Practise dealing with the feeling of loneliness by validating the emotion (e.g. ‘It’s okay I feel this way, ‘Everyone feels this way sometimes) and talking to yourself like a friend (‘I’m here for you, this will pass).

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  • 2 months ago

    I have heard pets are good for that.

  • 2 months ago

    If you don't feel comfortable with people, and if it's too difficult for you to socialize, maybe you could get a pet (a dog or a cat). A pet could be a kind of friend who is always with you. The next step could be some online communication with real people. You might find people on the web who you like "talking" to. And the following step could be getting offline with those with who you feel comfortable.

  • 2 months ago

    you cant.

  • 2 months ago

    That is tough especially as for finding an SO these days especially during the pandemic is somewhat hard.

    For me though i am 37 and single myself.

    I am almost ready to go back to work after some covid-19 exposure i had last November.

    Why am i mentioning this you ask?

    Its because during that time i learned to watch allot of YouTube and Twitch streams and during the days im in the right mood set i go into those kinds of streams and am sometimes active in chat then.

    No promises but if you can find a community as such that you get along with you could make a friend or two in there.

    Some of these streamers (not all but some) even have discord servers where all kinds of people make friends in there.

  • 2 months ago

    you need to get by people who are not into stimulation. When you are around people that loves stimulation then you develop a fear of people. Find people that avoids drama, that are laid back that will be normal with you, and that are clear in the head. 

  • 2 months ago

    First find out what you are looking for. Join on line groups that teaches meditation. One may be surprised that then you do not have to feel lonely anymore as you are now. There is nothing to loose, you can try it. 

  • garry
    Lv 6
    2 months ago

    get a boyfriend , he will cure your disorders , i promise you that ... likes them violent , has funny calming her down , hehe .

  • mokrie
    Lv 7
    2 months ago

    The only person that can help you is YOU. When you get really sick of the life your living you will do whatever you need to and get help or therapy to break free.

  • Anonymous
    2 months ago

    Friends are overrated.  Most of them are leeches.

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