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Anonymous asked in Family & RelationshipsSingles & Dating · 1 month ago

We only see each other once a week. Is this normal ? ?

Been seeing each other regular for about 2 months and we only meet once a week when in fact he can meet me more 

we know each other for months before this and have been seeing each even less frequently and we wouldn’t text as much 

Now we text pretty much every other day and he initiates too. But we only see each other once a week

Is this ever going to get better? Could he start liking me more? 

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  • 1 month ago

    I think it depends on how busy he is. If he has a job with demanding schedule then it can be hard to make time for a life outside of work. Also he could be keeping some distance not only because of the pandemic but he could have had a relationship before you that didn't end well and maybe that's a risk he's easing into taking and if anything you could just ask him why you guys only hang out once a week that's better than wondering what's going on in his head and why it's been like this for so long. Hope this heps and good luck.

  • Anonymous
    1 month ago

    Sounds like an epi/ pandemic plan to me.

  • 1 month ago

    Sounds like an epi/ pandemic plan to me.

  • 1 month ago

    As relationships evolve you usually see each other more often. The key question is whether or not he's a strong person.

    Could you possibly be making dating choices mainly based upon whether someone likes you and you like them? Unfortunately this approach to dating, used by most people, usually leads to a broken heart.

    May I suggest that the first question to ask yourself when considering whether or not to date someone is, “Is this person a strong person?” If they’re not, no matter how much you like them, how much they like you, or how “cute” or “hot” they are, - please don’t date them. A strong person has good character (honesty, integrity, trustworthiness), displays a positive attitude (cheerful, caring, friendly, forgiving, helpful, and respectful), fulfills their responsibilities (for handling people who are pains in a positive way, for always trying to make a good choice, for taking care of themselves, for serving others), gives their best effort, and demonstrates self-control (of their body, anger, mouth and money).

    My suggestion is that you put in the effort necessary to become a strong person (if you’re not already), stop seeing this guy in a kind way unless he’s a strong person, and eventually look for this type of guy (otherwise you’re setting yourself up for a broken heart). Unfortunately this type of man is difficult to find – but save yourself the heartache and don’t settle for less.

    (Please remember that you eventually want a 50 or 60 year marriage - not a 5 or 10 year marriage.)

    Hope this helps!

    PS Here are "21 tips that could help you to attract a strong person" from the book True Love Lasts:

    1. Take the time and put in the effort to become a strong person yourself (this is the most important tip)

    2. Put yourself in as many situations as possible that will allow you to potentially come in contact with other strong people - community service organizations, the library, high school or college clubs, the “Y” or other workout facilities, religious book studies, coffee shops, non-alcoholic parties, bookstores, concerts (wear a good pair of earplugs to protect your ears from permanent hearing loss), co-ed recreational athletic teams, community service projects, mission trips, volunteer service, etc. Try to get to know other people as much as possible without dating

    3. Be cheerful, approachable, and friendly - smile regularly to put others at ease (let people see your positive attitude)

    4. Take a real interest in getting to know others. Ask people an open-ended question about themselves in order to get them talking. Share things related to what’s been said as needed to keep the conversation going. Then ask them another question

    5. Be polite and kind to everyone - even to people who you don’t like or enjoy being around

    6. If you decide to not accept a request for a date, do it in a kind way (being rude isn’t a good choice and it doesn’t help you - word about it will get out and you’ll become less approachable)

    7. Be confident about yourself - if you’re trying to become a stronger person each day, you already have a lot going for you

    8. Be humble - don’t act like you’re Miss Charming or you’re Mr. Wonderful

    9. Don’t be concerned about whether or not someone likes you

    10. Have the attitude that if someone doesn’t like you - they don’t really know you

    11. Take care of yourself by getting enough sleep (at least nine hours for teens, at least seven hours for adults according to the experts), exercising regularly (if approved by your doctor), and eating a healthy diet

    12. Develop a good sense of humor - including the ability to laugh at your own mistakes

    13. Be known as a hard worker

    14. Dress well and dress modestly at the same time (wearing seductive clothing doesn’t attract another strong person)

    15. Pay attention to your appearance, but don’t obsess over it (remember that strong people are attracted to other strong people, they’re not too concerned about looks - because they realize that looks fade with age). If you use makeup, make sure it’s not excessive. Use perfumes and colognes sparingly - if at all

    16. Truly care about other people

    17. Stay in close communication with real friends who can help you through the ups and downs of life and hold you accountable

    18. Be patient - real friends can help you with this

    19. Persevere - please remember that almost nothing worthwhile is quick and easy. Please don’t settle for dating a weak person

    20. Don’t take it personally if someone doesn’t want to date you

    21. Don’t act desperate for a date

    Source(s): True Love Lasts - written with a character emphasis for teens through young adults, Straight Talk About Teen Dating - written with a Christian emphasis for ages 13-19, Straight Talk About Dating - written with a Christian emphasis for ages 20 and up
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  • 1 month ago

    If your working full time and still living in your family home it can be tricky to find time to meet up.  If they've also got Sport or Hobbies that require meeting up with others (pre and apres Covid) that means there is less time to meet up.  If you want to meet more, then tell him.

  • Raja
    Lv 7
    1 month ago

    You two have been seeing each other regularly for almost two months . Earlier it was less than that . Now you text every other day and he initiate that too .You feel that he can meet you more but how do you know this is possible with him . Due to some reason or other it may not be possible with him. Why not tell him casually that you desire to see him more often . Depending on his answer you can come to your own conclusion whether seeing each other once a week is normal or not.

  • Anonymous
    1 month ago

    everyone has different schedules or conflicts. been with my boyfriend for over 4 years, we see each other on the weekends only. plus we live about 25 minutes away from each other so it's not that easy, and with jobs. but we're working on it and will live together soon. open up your communication with him, please...

    so are you in a relationship with him or not? if not even more normal. maybe you should ask him... if you're not texting as much, take that as a hint. maybe he's exploring other options while still keeping you just in case

  • 1 month ago

    You're the 23 year old who feels old. Same writing style.

  • ?
    Lv 5
    1 month ago

    Life is busy. 

    When my now husband and I first started dating, it was also seeing each other once a week on Wednesday after work, because we both had busy weekend schedules. It does get better, as the relationship grows, you will find that your priority to him (and viceversa) changes. 

  • Alan H
    Lv 7
    1 month ago

    Currently, you should not be meeting at all 

    Talk about it

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