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What would you choose: working with someone who hates you and your family or loosing the chance to get promoted?

I joined a project team to make headway for promotion. I don’t want to have to drop out of the team even though it is voluntary and give my hard work away and let my contacts and coworkers down just because of one a-hole who’s suddenly joined too. But I do dread being in a meeting with him as he tries to undermine and even bully me and also my family whenever he sees them in town. If I had proof he did this I could just report him but I don’t. Should I go to the next meeting and just see how it goes? If so should I play civil and friendly or play assertive and confident? Should I tell the organiser I can’t work with this guy? Any advice much appreciated thank you.

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  • n2mama
    Lv 7
    1 month ago

    I’d take the professional high road. Be civil, be tolerant, work with him in whatever capacity you need to, no more, no less. If you tell the organizer you can’t work with this guy for personal reasons you only serve to make yourself look bad and people will lose respect for you on a professional level. If he undermines you or tries to bully you in the meetings, look up some strategies on how to shut down those behaviors, then employ them with confidence. But I would focus on doing things to my best to make the best possible impression. No way am I letting some jerk take down my professional opportunities.

  • 1 month ago

    If he didn’t exist, what would you do? That is your answer. Why are you going to miss an opportunity over him? Also, he won’t be the first ******** you meet in your career. 

  • Anonymous
    1 month ago

    Did you know that some people spell loosing l-o-s-i-n-g

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